Why does my EX keep in touch !!!?

Question

I was having a perfectly good day, I had organised to dates and been chating to girls on match. When out of the blue my EX emails me.

I still love her and it just hurts me to think of her. Is she trying to torture me. I broke up with her because she was inconsiderate and walked all over me.

I dont do the speaking to your EX thing or being friends.

Should I tell her not to call or email me or just ignore her ?

Answer 1

aww sounds like you should mention to her how painful it is for you two to keep talking at the moment just tell her to give you some time. i expect when you've fallen for someone else you may be able to have a friendship with her but if she cares for you as a person she'll respect that. Make sure you keep those dates

Answer 2

If thats how you feel

I broke up with my ex of three years unbeiliably it was the cleanest break up ever we never even fought till that day in three years and the fight was about the fact that we had outgrown one another, Its been a year and some months now and the only thing that has really stopped in our relationship is we dont share the same bed anymore, and we only call each other 2-3 times a week opposed to every day three times a day, we both are in different relationships but I consider him my best male friend and Ill alway love him.

My point is it takes maturity to be friends with ex's (depending on the reasoning for EXing them out of your life) So anywho Weve all heard the term that tigers dont change there stripes so dont even dignify her with an answer if it bothers you so. However maybe shes relized what a good person you are and the grass isnt greener on the other side. If you still have feelings you may want to see what she has to say

She might just want to say Hello & how are you ?

Answer 3

I would tell her that at the moment you don't feel that you want any contact with her, as you want to move on from the relationship and being in touch with her would make it more difficult. Tell her that you hope she understands that and can give you the space that you need, and that you know where she is if you feel that you can be in contact with her in the future - which of course you won't if you're not someone who stays in touch with an ex, but she doesn't need to know that right now!

I assume that she knows the reasons you broke up with her, so she should understand that it wasn't because you don't care about her, so you'll still be hurting. And if she can't accept that you don't want to be in contact at the moment, then she is very inconsiderate and you'd be perfectly justified in totally blocking her emails, calls etc.

Also, just give a thought to the seeing other people thing - is it really fair to perhaps get involved with someone while you're still in love with someone else? A few years ago I was with someone who it turned out hadn't got over his ex - I ended up very hurt in the end, and you don't want someone else to end up feeling as you do now.

Answer 4

Oh dear. It's probably best to send her a note to say that it's for the best if you don't keep in touch. It's really difficult to move on when someone is always lurking in the background. Speaking with exes and being friends is fine as long as you split amicably which it sounds like you didn't - still a lot of bitterness. Thing is you won't meet anyone else who you have a connection with if you still love your ex. Probably best to take time out from dating completely until you get over this first girl. She probably knows that she has power over you and gets a kick out of weilding it as she probably thinks you'll cave in. Be strong!

Answer 5

It can get really out of hand (ignoring her) i had an ex send me 56 emails over the corse of a year before i broke down and told her to not contact me anymore. Its better to be upfront about things...

Answer 6

I'mwith you on this one but my new fella isn't. people are just different so you have to do what you want. personally i'd just ignore her. that's what it takes for me to heal. she's just being inconsiderate and a bit controlling in my opinion. some people just like to get along and prefer to be nice but it will cause problems when you get with a new person so I'm thinking your a great guy and hope you find someone really nice soon.

Answer 7

gosh i'm sorry!! I know what you are talking about! Just ignore her and if in time she quits trying to sneak her way back in the picture, then yall could be friends. Dont reply to her b/c then she just will keep responding. If you dont say anything what is she going to say..."I KEEP calling/writing you like a crazy person and you never answer..." Haha Best of luck!

Answer 8

Hi ive not long split with my long term fella and i have to say i do email him still.... deffinately not because i want to get back with him but because i miss him dearly as a friend. He isnt ready to talk to me just yet but i would be gutted if he never wanted to be friends in the future as we did have such a great friendship..... Yes i miss him but i wouldnt go back, i just miss a friendship that we had.... maybe your ex feels the same cos i know if i did want him back i would certinaly say so!!!

Answer 9

ignore her, she will eventually stop emailing you. Once I had this totally nasty, rude guy that kept trying to call me and email me. I did not respond and he hasn't tried since. If you do respond it'll just bring back some old feelings of hurt. Don't let her bring you down while you are ahead.

Answer 10

Just ignore her! If you tell her to stop calling and stop e-mailing you then she may get mad and say some more really hurtful things and it is going to make it really bad on you if you still love her and she says some really hurtful things! Let it go and live your life, don't worry about her!