My boyfriend has told me to give him some space and time out of the relationship. He says he still loves me but just needs to sort his head out because he's "not feeling the relationship". He said he wants us to stay in touch during this "time out" but only as friends. He says it's not cold feet. I don't really understand what this means? I would love male points of view on this but females are also welcome to answer!
2006-11-15 04:48:47 · 15 answers · asked by gorgeous_ami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a female and i went through the same thing about 3 months ago with my fiance and we have been together for 3 yrs as well but engaged for 2 of them.
he wanted space to see if he would be happier without me or less stressed out,( we do live together) It lasted about 4 days and i did move back to my moms for the time being. He asked me to come over on the 4th day and we actually talked and communicated a lot more than we ever had. i stayed the night and the next morning i moved my stuff back in. Boys do not make sense anytime they feel like something is wrong in their life it's always us the girlfriend or whatever.
Make him miss you. Make sure if he does see you that you look great, try to be more understanding and tell him you respect what he's asking.
2006-11-15 04:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hun, you have to play this right ok...It sounds a bit dodgy, that he doesnt want to break up with you but wants time apart. Thats ok in a relationship but time apart should be spent with friends and so on not going off and forgetting bout the other person. Sounds like hes confused so I think you need to give him space.
Ok so now 1. no textin or callin 2. keep busy 3. go out with your mates 4. do your hair, makeup, always look good 5. do not be available 6. do not run after him
You must give him a deadline...any longer then a week hunny and its over.
Listen, i was with someone for 4 years, engaged and everythin..he did the same to me...we arent together anymore.
I never ran after him cause my moto is if he wants me he knows where i am.....its not easy for me to say btw, i found it soo hard but im stronger for it now!
You can do it x
2006-11-15 13:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by mersie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably scared to cump you because he does still have feelings towards you but does not see it lasting, he probably does not want to hurt you and wants you to decide for yourself that you are better off as friends so that he does not have the responsibility of dumping you. However, if you are clinging to hope you could beliveve that he s a man and has thought " hang on we have been together a long time so it's now or never to commit and settle down", this could have freaked him out so he needs to make sure he is ready for it. But, sadly I think otion 1 is more likely. In a daft way its a mans way of trying to salvage a friendship out of a relationship. My ex did a similar thing except he just decided to try and start silly arguments and disagree with every choice I made about my life, it was his weird way of saying we had out grown each other. In the end we had a big stupid fight about nothing and then sat and talked and decided we had both had enough of the relationship. The weird thing is we are still good friends. Good luck, I don't envy you in this awful heart breaking time. x
2006-11-15 12:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has just happened to a friend of mine. He has been with his girlfriend three years and now she wants to take a six month break as she wants to be with other guys (she was a virgin when they got together). It is tearing him apart but he realises its for the best as he is only 19 and realises that there may be other girls out there for him, even though he loves her a lot. They have been together a long time and just want to make sure that this relationship is what they want for ever. I dont think you should take it too seriously, just be sure that he still loves you and this will be beneficial for your future. If you are meant to be, this period will probably strengthen you, although it will be very hard.
2006-11-15 13:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by prettyflower17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has told you that you might me to overbearing for him... then he actually might of meant exactly what he said. He just needs his space and when he is ready he will come back to you. So if you love him just try to sit back and see where this goes...but if he takes to long to talk to you and tell you where this relationship is going (find him and try to talk to him about it, and if he avoids you and the question)...then he might be trying to break up with you but he doesn't have enough strength to tell you the truth so soon.
2006-11-15 12:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by shygirl2many_4569 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that once, about five years into a relationship then left three years later - with me I wasn't really happy in the relationship, and was trying to make something work that wasn't working for me, anyway. I felt smothered in the relationship and I couldn't go anywhere/ do anything on my own - it was just too claustrophobic. Sorry if that's not what you want to hear, just being honest...
2006-11-15 13:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like he is a very nice respectufly guy and doesn't like to see people hurt so he is breaking up with you in the nicest way possible! Don't feel bad though, there are more fish in the sea and things always happen for a reason!
2006-11-15 12:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by --Br0oklYn-- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without wanting to be hush. I think you should view this as the end of the relationship. If someone loves you they shouldn't need to take time out. they would want to be with you always
2006-11-15 12:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mangy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s an excuse to sow his oats elsewhere, and to have some fun, while you wait for him. Or it`s the final brush off, and he`s too much of a coward to tell you. Don`t be a mug. Give him an ultimation.
2006-11-15 12:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means your dumped, he just hasnt got the guts to do it in case the grass aint greener! Live your life, dont hang about for him. Itl be hard but youl soon get the hang of it. x
2006-11-15 12:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by wickedsoul132 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋