i got so emotional and disappointed that i cry after sex, i get so close to org and then its never long enough. i try not to get upset, i feel bad because he tries so hard but usually doesnt sastifies me.
i really dont want to get upset, i just get overwhelmed. What should i do?
2006-11-15 04:27:01 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So.. he doesn't try any new positions, you don't like the pre-c*m, he prematurely ejaculates, and you don't get off and cry?
The way I see it, you have three choices..
1) Dump him and find a more experienced and satisfying lover.
2) When he's done, diddle yourself to the big O.
3) Take control / help him. Slow him down some. It's not all 'wham bam'.
If you have to, then roll him over and you get on top. Take it slow and just kind of sway your hips front to back and back and forth. Every once in a while, go up and down. Then just stop. Sit there and watch each other. Reach around behind you and GENTLY fondle his sac. Take his hands and place them on your breasts and tell him to rub softly. When he's close to reaching his, then stop all movement and make him wait. Go slow and - get this - try making love.
Tell him he can bang you next time, and when he gets off too quick then again, roll him over. This lets you find what REALLY feels good, and may help you get one before he falls out. If he does, then you may still be able to grind on it until you find that spot..
2006-11-15 05:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by thatoneguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be disappointed with yourself. I know how that feels, so I had to spice things up a little. Try a different route; buy a new toy! so you both can be happy. I know it can sound funny or a bite weird, but its fun! It can get quite intresting! Don't be afraid to try anything. BUT 1st talk to your love and tell him the situation (in a kind and gental manner!) Love him and tell him you want to change things up a bite and don't always 100% use it, b/c he'll tell you just use the machine! Its not fun just by yourself. You need the other half to fully experience it! Well, I hope things get better. P.s. Cry never helps it only put you and your love under pressure to face more disappointment! So, don't feel bad. Mix it up a bit.
2006-11-15 12:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by deadgrl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a vibrator, (butterfly or a jack rabbit) because it's guaranteed satisfaction. If after sex you are still not feeling like you've haven't had enough and you know you love this person and you want to be with him then try new position or new things because you may be bored with the same thing or the same way. Or do the vibrator, it will satisfy you.
2006-11-15 12:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your orgasms are comming to quickly and your getting frustrated over it. If that is the case than understand that he is really pleasing you and just let it flow its all in the mind if your going to have a good one so just think of it like he is going to satisfie you no matter how short or long the orgasm is and just enjoy it. Its some times normall to get so overwhelmed after wards. I hope this helps
2006-11-15 12:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not totally letting go... Don't be upset with him, it isn't his fault. The mind is the most erotic sex organ. Let go & you'll experience the ultimate O! (and ask him not to stop until you are finished-believe me, it may hurt him a little, but he can keep going)
2006-11-15 12:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure, but I used to have girl friend cry after great sex... she just said it was so emotional.. I thought it was kinda cool. Now you make me wonder - was she that disappointed? Naw... it was really good and she could not have been faking!
2006-11-15 12:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by BlankProfile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sweetie. Try a different position. Longer foreplay. Maybe try using sex toys so that you can go as long as you want.
2006-11-15 12:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno....cause I would cry too...and this is a continuing thing? For how long? If it's been a while and he still can't satisfy you, you may want to think of moving on.
2006-11-15 12:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is finishing before you I would suggest that you get some creams that make him numb/ less sensative to your good stuff. then that should help your situation. BUT talk to him about it, do the research on which creams will not trasfer over to you so it will not make you less sensative.
2006-11-15 12:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by krazeetingtong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby-girl all i can say is try talking to him about your little problem and also try to do different thinks when your having sex try toys or try all the things that you will love
2006-11-15 12:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by bonnie3bd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋