Here's the dilema. In May, I started talking to a guy I met off of Yahoo Personals. We talked for about 5 months, never met, partially because I was scared, and because he has qualitlies that I don't like, and I was holding back. He's 25, working at Taco Bell, living with his parents, and is a stoner. I do not tolerate drugs what so ever, but I wasn't gonna marry him so I overlooked it. In the end, it bothered me too much, and he wasn't very interesting, so I ended it. As a big mistake, I told my best friend "Kat" that she should talk to him. I didn't see how it was bad until days after they were talking. She came from a broken home, abuse drugs, etc...and has lived with me and my family for 7 years. She has always said things would be different for her. But now she acts like he is "the one" and wants to meet him. I know now, that he's been lying to me, maybe her, no motivation or goals for the future, and is a drugie. I think he would be bad for her even to meet him. Should she or no?
2006-11-15 04:21:37 · 7 answers · asked by n. s. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I realize in normal circumstances, she should meet him and find out for herself, but she has a head up from what we both know and have told eachother. He lies, and he lies bad. Told me he had never been arrested. Told her he had for credit card fraud, and when asked why he didnt tell me, he said he was ashamed. Yet he told me he loved me??? I also believe all he wants is a piece of ***. I tol her straight up, I wanted a relationship, no friends w/ benifits. He said his life was too stressful (he was moving) and he could handle a relationship at the time. Yet we could still hook up...? We really want an unbiased opinion....
2006-11-15 04:41:56 · update #1
he's a looser 25 and still living at home come on IF you have to ask if she should meet him well you know that answer in your gut Hell NO drugies are drugies and will never change
Go to yahoo personals or okcupid.com and meet some nice men ones that don't live at home or do drugs.
get her to meet other ppl and stay away from "The Looser" ok Good Luck with your friend and you!
2006-11-15 04:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Majenta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this question, of course she "shouldn't meet him". He's a "looser"! Run the other way!
Obviously she has very "low self-esteem" and that's very understandable considering her background. She needs some help with her self esteem and confidence and as her friend, you need to try to find a way to help her.
I think you could both use a little "counselling", good luck.
2006-11-15 12:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, the guy is a loser. You were smart enough to stay away from him, your friend should do the same. There will be no changing him. He is NOT the one!
2006-11-15 12:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was such a loser and stoner, why would you set your friend up with him like that? Geez...ultimately it is her choice whether she meets him or not. Nothing you can do about it now.
2006-11-15 12:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dude sounds like a complete loser for ANYONE... not just your friend. Why don't you keep looking for someone else for her?
2006-11-15 12:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she should not...try to put some sense into her...No druggie is ever the right one.
2006-11-15 12:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not
2006-11-15 12:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋