I finally met a nice, caring, attentive, solid guy who I have a great time with. The catch: he's just gone through a bitter breakup (his wife cheated on him). It's been eight months since they separated, but the whole thing isn't final yet. He was emotionally devasted by the split, but he says he feels ready to move on. He seems sincere and honest and open. But I'm scared that I'm just asking for pain. He's being extremely attentive and sweet but part of me is scared that he's "using" me to just fill the void left by his wife.
Am I asking for trouble here, or should I go with it? We've only been dating for a month. I really like this guy, but I'm scared.. I don't want to be the transitional woman. I've been there before, and it hurts. (I'm the first person he's dated since the breakup).
2006-11-15 03:56:14 · 5 answers · asked by Jessie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no absolute answer to this. Some people need a transitional person between major relationship and some don't. I know your scared of being hurt but the truth is in every relationship you will ever enter and truly find love there is always a risk of being hurt. If you really think this is a great guy then why let him go just because of being scared. To do so may mean missing out on something really special.
2006-11-15 04:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone has a rebound problem. If you like him, all you can do is watch and wait. Maybe he really cares for you too, and things will work out for you.
2006-11-15 12:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your question. If you have fears avoid him for a while and see how he reacts. You will meet lot many good guys in life.
2006-11-15 12:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to be scared. I cant say for sure that he is using you, as unintentional as it may be, but its pretty likely.
2006-11-15 11:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he this great person you should be open with him about this issuie,and let him know how much support you can give.
2006-11-15 12:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by armbar60805 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋