I'm black (if you cant tell) and my boyfriends white and we have been getting along for the past 7 months. But recently we discovered how different our cultures are and how we were raised and morally stand is getting in the way of our relationship. He feels his rude to tell friends your going to be late because you had something planned for your girlfriend first, I feel friends should be understanding. He thinks its annoying and immature to "act crazy" in a resturant when your in a group, I find its just a time to have fun. Those are one of the few things we argue about, is there any hope for us? Can we meet somewhere in the middle?
2006-11-15 03:40:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can meet somewhere int he middle but seems like it's too overhwhealming for him. That's funny that you mentino that because i'm hispanic/White and my BF of 4 years is Black. We a have a great relationship and his family moves me. With him and i he porblem is that i'm realy close to my family but he isn't as much as i am but it's not like a huge deal to me . There's things about him that i ddin't think i could get used to and vise versa with him but i think that when people really love each other they will work around each tohers cultures, ideas, customs etc. I'd do anything for my BF because i love him and i know he would do anythig for me. All your behaviors are normal for any culture i l get loud and dance & stuff when i go out witht he girls and it's ok to be that way- he's just taking it like it's a racial thing like all black people do that or something. He shoudl work around you and if he's not willing - jsut loose the man! not worth the time!
2006-11-15 03:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that this has to do with your being black and his being white. They're just differences in how you were raised, as you said. These differences in attitudes are something that all couples have to overcome, and its your choice whether you want to go ahead with it or whether the differences are too great for your relationship. That being said, there are a lot of couples who have different outlooks on things and they find common ground and stay together for the long haul
2006-11-15 03:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No culture shock it just a matter of different ideas opinions on things there are some white people who think just like you and vice versa, I think compromise is what is needed here if something this small is causing major arguments maybe the problem is something else!!
2006-11-15 03:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by jkfranklin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's plenty of hope as long as you both respoect each other and your idfferences. Without ever making fun of the or acting as if they are horrible or un-understandable!!! My best friend is black and she's married to a white boy and everythign is fine and dandy, where there is love there is hope always remember that!
2006-11-15 03:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can both be understanding of aech other and in time you'll both assimilate to each other's culture and beliefs. Just give it time before you make any decisions and tell him to lighten up not to worry about life so much because it will give him a lot of stress.
2006-11-15 03:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 10:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can get along,...however, those problems don't sound like culture problems,...they sound more like personality problems.
2006-11-15 03:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by a m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Imagine , if you were both on a deserted island, and treat each other accordingly.
2006-11-15 03:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
relationships are all about comprimise. if you'll try then he'll try. if it's meant to be then it'll all come out in the wash
2006-11-15 03:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO U HAVE TO FIND YOU A WHITE BF THAT CAN RELATE TO YOU.
2006-11-15 03:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋