She cut me out of her life because I disagreed with something that she did to another family member. Keep in mind that my sister is a paranoid, antisocial personality disorder.
2006-11-15 03:38:38 · 13 answers · asked by Donna M 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you are giving them presents because you love them and want them to have happiness, then yes, you should.
If you are giving them presents to show your sister what a nice person you are, or to manipulate her with guilt, then no, don't bother.
Depending on how mad she is, the kids might never get your presents, even if you mail them. Keep that in mind.
2006-11-15 03:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nieces and nephews should not have to suffer because of what's going on with you and your sister. They are innocent. Remember that. So yes you should buy christmas presents for them and also let them know that know matter what's going on with you and their mother has nothing to do with them and you will always be there for them. Children need to know that they have loved ones to turn to if they need it. Hope you and your sister work it out because family is a very precious thing.
2006-11-15 14:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by heartyangel98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you are close to her children, by all means, send them Christmas presents. Also, to show that YOU are not cutting HER from your life, include a Christmas card to her, reminding her that you care.... All people make mistakes, give her the chance to know that it can be amended.
Family is important, and there is a chance that after receiving just a card from you, she'll realize the importance of it. Try to refrain from saying anything nasty in it. Just a simple Merry Christmas, sending you warm wishes of love and comfort, Hug the kids for me Love.... you. ;)
2006-11-15 12:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by slices_of_heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's a good way to give them to the children...via your parents or something. But you don't want to give presents to her kids if its going to make her angry at them. Do what you think will make the kids' life the easiest. If you never give them presents, don't start now to make your sister mad...if this is the first year they won't get one from you, they'll understand. but mostly i think give them to the kids through grandparents or mutual relative.
2006-11-15 11:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by fatjunkcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without a doubt, it's unfortunate how your sister feels about you, but none of that is her kids fault. Show love not hatred!
2006-11-15 11:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by BAINIC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what your sister has or what type of fight you two have between you. It has NOTHING to do with the kids at all. Why should they suffer?
2006-11-15 11:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is going on between you and your sister should not affect the relationship you have with your nephew/nieces.
2006-11-15 12:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not buying them presents seems like you are punishing them for thier mother's behavior. You decide.
2006-11-15 11:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are not mad at her kids, You're mad at your sister. I have been mad at my sister for 15 yrs, but I've been raising her daughter for 5 yrs.( those are two separate things.
2006-11-15 11:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by 520 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're neices or nephews have no control over moms actions.
2006-11-15 11:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋