The situation is I was laid off back in June and haven't been able to find employment since. I am drawing unemployment but it's not a lot. I try to help and pay what I can. He's mad because he always feels that he has to come to me for money and that I don't offer it and see if he needs help towards something. I love him so much and don't want him mad anymore. We haven't talked for a couple days now and I want him to understand that I do love him and would do anything to help him. He was really burned in the past by 2 ex's and I believe he carries resentment and thinks that I am going to do the same thing and I'm not.
2006-11-15 03:37:51 · 12 answers · asked by ncgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do give what I can. I have to pay out for childs school expenses, etc. I have looked for a job but we live in a small country area that doesn't have much and the outer cites are the same. It's not that I'm not looking because I am 100%. I would work anywhere to pitch in and help. I would NEVER do him wrong. When I was working he always got most of what I broght home to pay the bills.
2006-11-15 03:50:09 · update #1
You should go out every morning and put in your applications. I can't believe there is nothing out there available for work. McDonald's is a job. So, what if it's not the best job, you will be bringing in an income. That man must feel like he has to do it all and pay for everything. You will lose him if you don't start contributing to this relaitionship financially. If you truely love him, then take this burdon off of him. Good luck and GOD bless you.
2006-11-15 03:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't. The solution to your problem is for you to get a job. but either way- he'st he man of the house he has to take care of all that not you. You should worry about the little things you need a dn clean the house and watch the kids. Everything else should be up to him but if you want to help out- at least get a part time and go to school. Don't sit around the house doing nothin that will make him want to kick you out of the house
2006-11-15 11:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is that there is work for you if you want to take it.
The second issue here is why aren't you voluntarily putting your unemployment checks into the community pool already? I don't think he's mad at you as a result of his ex's. He's mad at you because you think your money is yours and the fact that he has to come and ask you to contribute proves it.
You are either in a relationship or not. Sounds like he's in one and you aren't. That's why he's mad.
Check your thinking, put yourself in his shoes. Are you just like his ex's? Did they mooch off him? It''s November, you were laid off FIVE months ago! Take personal inventory girl, you sound lazy to me.
2006-11-15 11:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of jobs out there, especially before Christmas when all of the Dept. stores are looking for extra help. Get off your behind and get a real job. Restaurants are always hiring waitresses, and so are day care centers. Stop making excuses.
2006-11-15 11:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he actually see that you're trying to get another job? If he doesn't see that you're trying to get another job, that's a likely reason for there being tension in the relationship. If he does see that you're looking for a job, he's gotta let things go. It's kind of hard to live with a boyfriend/girlfriend because without that marriage commitment, no one owes it to the other to pick them up when they are down.
2006-11-15 11:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by Matt B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get off your *** and go look for a job and offer atleast half of what you get there are alot of jobs in this world and it does not have to be a perfect job that pays alot there is fast food and other things like that dont give me that **** that you cant find a job
2006-11-15 11:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy make more of an effort to find a job...so for 6 mths you've been looking and just haven't found anything...that's a bit hard to beleive, no wonder he's pissed.
Get off your lazy a_ss and get a job!
2006-11-15 11:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is best u find any job, even a grocery store job will do.
Or u could just give him your unemployment check to help with bills.
2006-11-15 11:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to start offering up some money so what if you go broke or have less at least you'll have a place to stay it's the least you can do you really shouldn't be on here asking us questions you should be on monster.com or careerbuilder.com with yo' no job having a$s.
2006-11-15 11:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by 1 luvly LEO 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a job at pizza hut or something showing him your trying.. and you never know you might find something better.. but get out and do something to prove your not like the others .. dont be to good for a fast food place or crappy job. it shows that you care and are trying. trust me.. and your never to good for a job when you need money..
2006-11-15 11:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by diamondg4u2c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋