wel me and my boyf had been dating for about 3 months but it was long distnace and we got in sort of an argument and i brought it up becuas he was totaly not making an effort it seemed in the alst while we were together, always too busy. and he even forgot to call me on my birthday and i donno it seemed excuse after excuse i finally got super pissed off and tried to talk to him like calmly about it and said ididnt know if we could go out anymore, i wanted ot be his priority but i guess i was expecting too much. anyways after that fight he wouldnt speak to me...or answer his phone...does that mean he never reall liked me at all? i spoke with him recently and hes moved up north he says we couldnt be together anytime soon...bnut hed call me when heh comes down here to visit. how should i take this? did i ruin something with someone i really liked?
2006-11-15 03:15:15 · 7 answers · asked by krista22here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well only an hour away from me he lived
2006-11-15 03:16:50 · update #1
unfortnuatly it feels like its at the point of no return but i tried convincing him there was hope he said maybe well have another chance...but that he just doesnt see us being more then friends...and that he doesnt have those feelings for me anymore. somehow i found that hard to belive, i think because im pretty sure hes lieing and tryin to make it easier on me to just leave him alone. which i have now but, i donno i guess all i can do is wait for him to call now...i told him i felt hurt because he said he didnt mind the distnace since he could see his friends all the time this way....
2006-11-15 03:32:39 · update #2
I had a similar thing with my best friend. He missed my birthday, and he hasn't called me since, it was a month ago. I finalyl got fed up and called him one it. Long-distance relationships are hard and both people need to be willing to work on it and if both people aren't willing to work the relationship is doomed. I truly believe that you guys really liked wach othe rbut distance puts a strain on relationships that you probably aren't used to experiencing. Ask him if he still wants to be with you and take his response for what it is. It's okay to want to be his priority but you're not allowed to have all of his time. You have to share him with other people like his friends and his family. I don't think your ruined it, it sounds like he's running scared. Maybe take a break and date other people until he comes to his senses. But don't sit around waiting for him because he might not some back.
2006-11-15 03:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't feel bad about what you want, it is completely reasonable what you expect in a relationship.
I don't know how you guys talked about things, but it seems to me that he acted like this relationship was more casual than formal. In that case, I think that you didn't ruin anything, because you were asking for something that any formal relationship should have.
Don't feel bad about it, and I just recommend you talk to him about what you want, LISTEN to what he is thinking, and see how he reacts about it. If it's not working, then it's not working.
2006-11-15 11:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Historygeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may not be any of my business but the way i see it you should see if he comes back if you love him but if he doesn't you are too good for him because he should of talked to you like a man
2006-11-15 11:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by tony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should move on with your life,long distance relationships are too hard.
2006-11-15 11:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by boozer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my dear he has another woman in his life he has been toying with you all this while.
2006-11-15 11:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's an a##hole and you're better off without him...
he's using you, don't let him
good luck
2006-11-15 11:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants you as a booty call
2006-11-15 11:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋