I have a friend who is a friend's ex. She screwed him over really badly and broke his heart a year ago. He has had a few flings over the last year, all of which he told them, I don't want a girlfriend. People are starting to question our relationship as more than friends and keeps asking me when we are going to get together. He's still not over her completely and we talked about us possibly dating and he said that he couldn't date a friend of his ex. And I told him that if feelings were ever there, I'd have trouble because I'd always be thinking what would she have said or done. But I'm not really friends with her anymore and he knows our relationship is strained. We've never kissed, we hang out all the time, talk everyday, a few days ago we talked some pretty spicy stuff but then didn't talk for a few days after that. He pays for me everytime we go out to eat. But then when I joke about hooking up with someone, he's like "go get yours". I don't get it! What does he want??
2006-11-15 02:56:53 · 9 answers · asked by skybelle24 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants you but doesn't want to seem like he's holding you back...he is probably thinking the exact same things you are. Don't let it stop you. You kiss him and let things progress from there. Your gonna have to make the first move because he isn't sure what your thinking.
2006-11-15 03:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it some more time. relax around him. If you really like him, let him know. don't be very blunt but also don't be too subtle. say things like "Hahahaha you know, we're practicly girlfriend and boyfriend" when you are out together and see how he reacts. DO NOT say this if he has given you hints not to. it's complicated but just make conversations and keep it comfortable and see how he reacts. that will let you know if it's safe to take it to the next level. If it looks like he's going to make a move, let him go first. don't jump him on it,it's probably taken all his courage to get this far with you if he really likes you. Also, try paying every once in a while when you go out. Just offer to take the check or just take it without letting him cut you off. he'll apreciate it even if he doesn't show it.
good luck
2006-11-15 11:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by ichigo_li2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes , you have to take a risk to find happiness. You guys are practically a couple already, so why not let him know you want more of a relationship? There's no guarantee this will work, but it's worth a try.
2006-11-15 11:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for him and would like to take the relationship to another level, honesty is the best policy. Talk with him about it. It is generally better to regret something you have done than regret a missed opportunity.
2006-11-15 11:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish women would get over that "friendship bull" .. why wouldnt you want to be with someone who is your good friend.. Cause that means he has qualitites that you like, and plus you already know him.. Why give a perfect stranger a chance at your love rather then someone you are already close to?
2006-11-15 10:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by bru69w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a relationship between the two of you would get very complicated. I wouldn't go there if it were me.
2006-11-15 11:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't persue this. He is just wanting to be your friend from the sound of it. You need to go out there and make yourself availlable to someone who won't play games.
2006-11-15 11:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why do you want someone that wants someone else?Until he gets his act together,back off.Talk to your friend that dated him and see if they are OK with it before you do it.If they are OK with it,pursue it however you want,but not until both of these things happen.
2006-11-15 11:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want a relationship. even a hint of it is distasteful. don't push him. you two will have sex, but that's all it will amount to.
2006-11-15 11:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋