- have a guy friend that i like. we slept together three times, as friends with benefits. then he said we should back off for now because he only likes me as a friend.
- when i mention a new guy i might be interested in, he seems interested in what i am saying, but is quick to point out the bad qualities the guy possesses. he gets really over-protective.
- he never compliments me, because he says he would be leading me on. but he is quick to point out all the stuff he DOESN'T like about me. It hurts my feelings and we wind up getting into aurguments.
- he says that nothing i ever do will change the fact that he only likes me as a friend. that he will never be interested in me romatically at all. which stings, because i hate to be ruled out all together.
- when i mention any other girl he is talking to, he is quick to state that he isn't sleeping with any of them, just talking. "i could have anyone, but i haven't had sex with anyone else.." - which, i'm ruled out, why would i care?
anyone have any ideas here? because i am getting sick of the back & forth stuff..
2006-11-15 02:54:29 · 11 answers · asked by lickablecake123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not a good situation for you and your mental health. I have been there before and it's no fun. Yes, you like the guy as a friend, but you obviously like him more than that or you would not care that you have been ruled out. Secretly or subconciously you want more. You wouldn't take the negativity from your girlfriends would you? Too much drama. Either have a real romantic relationship or stop fooling around. There is no in between if you really respect yourself. It would be a different story if he was positive towards you and encouraging in your relationship as a real friend would be, but he is not. You are physically there for him out of convenience. You should first figure out what you want from the relationship, then try to talk to him. Be prepared to end the relationship. You will get over it. Good luck.
2006-11-15 03:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This jerk is trying to get all your power, u got to stop letting him.
Go out with other guys immediately,
If this guy loves u more than friends , then he will be back in the pic. on his knees beggin u romantically.
Remember men can be self servin jerks and mess wid your mind. Dont give him the power.
Live your own life and find someone that will tell u positive only things and never put u down.
U will learn as u grow older.
2006-11-15 10:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds kinda confused as to what he considers friends being. The way you describe the Roll he seems to play in your life, sounds more like a big brother, yet he keeps bringing up the fact that he isn't sleeping with the others?
Pretty weird.
Maybe he doesn't feel as though you two are compatible in bed? THAT can be a drag.
You might have to distance yourself from him, and find someone new who isn't so judgmental of you and others, and who is capable of a more intimate relationship.
2006-11-15 11:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off on the sex and let him think that you only like him as a friend. He may like you romantically because he seems to be protesting too much. Wait and see what he does.
2006-11-15 10:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are suppossed to be friends with benefits only then he wouldn't have backed away like he did and enjoyed the sex only. This guy if defintely crunching on you. You need to call him out on it. Ask him how he feels
2006-11-15 10:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe he hasn't ENTIRELY ruled you out. That, or he wants to have his cake and eat it too. That is, he wants to keep you around for possible future booty calls, but is unwilling to commit to a more serious relationship with you. Bottom line: he needs to straighten up and properly define things with you.
2006-11-15 10:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you might not be able to be friends. Sometimes "friends with benefits" works and sometimes it just ruins the friendship.
2006-11-15 10:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be friends with benefits. End of story.
2006-11-15 11:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is just using you. dont have sex with him anymore. that could be all he wants.
2006-11-15 10:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by Katiie Babiie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit having sex with him
2006-11-15 10:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Mai Tai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋