Im so frusterated with my boyfriend! I know he doesnt liek to talk on the phone for very long, and thats not the problem, as long as he calls thats all that matters to me. The problem is right before he gets off he says "ill call you tomorrow or ill get online to talk to you" or something close to that, and 40% of the time he follows up with that but the other 60% he doesnt get online at all, or call, or even text saying HI! It's not that im mad that we dont talk for one day, it just irritates me when he gets me all excited to talk to him tomorrow but hardly ever follows up with it. What does it mean when he does that? Should i not trust his word anymore? I mean he has a full time job so ... do you think that might be it? or am i reading to much into this? PLEASE HELP!
2006-11-15 02:52:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He tells you that, because he feels he has to, to keep you happy. Let him know that you would rather he not promised to call or get online than to say he will and then not follow through. He may have every intention of doing just that, but gets distracted by something else and forgets...I admit, 60% of the time is a lot to fall under that category, so you need to lay it out there for him and tell him that when he promises to call or get online and fails to follow through, it makes it hard for you to believe him when he says anything... Give the guy a chance to fix it...
2006-11-15 02:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if I was doing that it would probably be because I think we are already talking enough or too much but still I know you are expecting me to call or talk to you again the next day so I say I will call you so that it doesn't look too bad. Try this: Don't ask him if he thinks you are talking too much over the phone or on-line because he might not be willing to admit it and hurt your feelings. Instead tell him that you are doing it too much and see if he agrees with you. If he does you will know I am right!
2006-11-15 03:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by Tommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ill call you tomorrow or ill talk to you on line probably means he wants to get off the phone and if he says that you will accept the goodbye alot easier. Seems like an ok guy to me. sounds like you also might be pretty young. relax a little.
2006-11-15 02:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by christine v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he saying goodbye to you all wrong,when he said he would talk to you tomorrow that is just the standard line a lot of people say before saying goodbye but you take it literally,next time you talk to him,ask him not to say it if he doesn't mean it.Just say I'll call soon,and say goodbye.Hope this helps.
2006-11-15 02:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alline, you may go on speculating and propound several theories on the reasons for him not getting in touch till thy kingdom come, all in futility. My advice to you is that you take a pragmatic approach by going to where he his - pay him a visit if you're not in the same city. And make sure you stay with him at least for 2 or 3 days. This will afford you both to discuss heart-to-heart on several knotty issues and you'll get them solved once and for all. Contact me through my profile for further discussions. cya.
2006-11-15 03:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just busy... but that doesn't matter, because it hurts your feelings when he doesn't call or IM you.
You should tell him that it really bothers you when he says he'll call or IM and he doesn't.. ask him that you need him to call or IM you when he says he will - even if it's just a 2 second call or a quick "hi" in IM... let him know how important this is to you
2006-11-15 02:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well like you said, he has a full time job and maybe that 60% of the time he doesn't respect his promise he's just tired... or maybe he just thinks that your relationship is strong enough to resist not talking to each other for one day and he says he'll call you to show that he is interested in you.
2006-11-15 02:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by ionut*999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him some breathing room, men need their space and freedom, just beacuse he doesnt call you everyday may mean nothing but if you continue to dwell on this issue one day you will bring it on and you will a have big fight, you have to teach yourself to keep yourself busy and dont think about these meaningless things, men dont like women who cant keep themselves busy.
2006-11-15 02:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by ezkeyp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people simply dont like communicating over the phone. He may be like that. Just dont sit and wait for his phone calls.
2006-11-15 02:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy, we mean it when we say it but we are easily distracted and lazy and speaking for myself hate talking on the phone...an e-mail seems easy enough though...
2006-11-15 02:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by onottopilot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋