Ok, i have been going out with my bf or i should say ex now for about 3 years. i broke up with him the other day due to the fact that it seems that he is picking his computer games or whatever over me. he says hes not any has nothing to do while i am at work blah blah but i also broke up with him for other reasons. i still love him very much and everything and i told him that only reason we will get back together is if i delete all your everquest crap and he was like no i shouldnt have to do that..so in my mind he is choosing the game over our relationship? What should i do? and guys why is he doing this?
2006-11-15 02:51:59 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I am GLAD to hear you broke up for OTHER reasons. Just because a guy has a hobby he spends lots of time on - you should not break up with him. Now, sometimes a hobby like Everquest can become addicting. Soooo many people are addicted to that game. I am addicted to some other games which is one reason I am not playing them now. However online Poker I do play. You just have to work out a compromise. With everquest - you usually set times to meet other friends to go kill bad guys. So, just tell him that you want to set aside time for "us". A guy who loves his girl does not need to be ONLY thinking of his girl 24 hours a day. he can have other "fun". Wouldn't you prefer that he likes video games rather than other girls? You have to choose - lesser of 2 evils - at least you KNOW what he is doing when you are not together. :)
Just sit with him and tell him you are not happy and want to spend MORE time together. Ask him if he can change the time that he plays or play a little less, or find more time to date you.
There are ALWAYS solutions, you just need to look!
2006-11-15 03:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by The Ultimate Nerd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just knew you were talking about EQ. Let me guess, He won't get off the game when you come over because it will upset his "Guild" and they won't play with him anymore. Also, he probably stays up all night playing too. Oh, and does he have two TV's in the living room so that he can watch and play at the same time?
I had the same problem with my man and it never ended until I told him that he was choosing the game over me. Actually, we faught about this issue, over and over and over again. Until I made him so mad that his playstation sailed across the room and landed in a pile of ruins on the floor(he threw it!!!). I had never seen him so angry in my life, but I'm sure you will understand the relief I felt when the thing crashed into a million pieces.(YESSS!!!)
It is my understanding that some people have addictive personalities and this enables them to become addicted to things other than substances. My man, and your BF meet this standard.
I really thought about breaking up with my man when the addiction became overwhelming to me, but I'm glad that I didn't. Now, I have my man and we even have a playstation, but he is not ever allowed to play EQ again.
I forced my man to change. I had to make him see that it is just a game. When did the neverending game become fun? I have no idea, but you have to force him to see that it is HURTING you. It may also be hurting him as well. My man actually lost weight and turned paper white because he stopped going outside, oh and he lost friends too.
So, it's not a guy thing, it's an addiction thing. I've heard of mariages ending because of this type of thing, I've also heard of cases of child abuse and neglect ending in death, yes DEATH of children who where not being watched.
This is a serious problem, and I think that he will have to admit it or you're going to have to sneak and poison his PS.
Just know that you are not alone. Show him this, and see what he says. There is also information on-line about this. Look up video game addiction. Show him that as well.
2006-11-15 03:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a bit of balance on bothyour parts
he should put down the everquest to spend quality time with you
if you feel threatended tho by the the everquest and he picks up a vibe of me or everquest not both then you you would be to blame
2006-11-15 03:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geez! My bf of 2 1/2 years loves Madden and it drives me NUTS! If you really care about him and he about you - you will just have to work out a compromise!! They don't realize why we pitch such a fit and don't understand that we feel that they pay more attention to the game than us. I guess it is just the way their brains are hardwired! Good Luck!
2006-11-15 02:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by deziakgurl407 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have hobbies too but i mean if he is alway playing then that might be a problem......Don't forget this quote though. An ex is always an X. I think you should be looking for someone that is more mature and knows how to treat a lady.
Good luck!!!
2006-11-15 02:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Maria K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all about compromise. he obviously loves the game. you're asking him to give up something that he put a lot of time and effort in. at the same time though, he has to live in the real world. if he really loved you then there should at least be a time for games and time for some real quality time with you. there needs to be compromise.
2006-11-15 02:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds kind of immature - picking videogames over a girl? - that's really lame
I know you love this guy, but you've got to recognize that he's got a lot of growing up to do before he's ready to be there for you
2006-11-15 02:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you left him. My ex chose football over me. If they don't chose you it's like saying that they are leaving you. So the best thing to do was to dump him. Don't let him waste your time. If he loves you he will be there for you and he isn't. My advice is find someone that doesn't need to chose.
Boys can never make up thier minds!
2006-11-15 03:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Avangelis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know how you feel! my boyfriend plays video games on the computer all the time! i will be laying on his bed.. and he will just sit there and play his games sometimes and doesn't even pay attention to me. i would never break up with him over it. but it sucks!
2006-11-15 03:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Malik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel! my boyfriend plays video games on the computer all the time! i will be laying on his bed.. and he will just sit there and play his games sometimes and doesn't even pay attention to me. i would never break up with him over it. but it sucks!
2006-11-15 02:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by Katiie Babiie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋