I hear a lot of talk about the importance of trust and I agree. However, trust has to be earned. I don't think it's something you just hand out freely. Plus, a relationship is an investment and I feel that anyone that doesn't keep tabs on their investment is asking for it. What do you think?
2006-11-15 02:39:09 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do the same thing and i haven't found anything ,never let her find out though.
2006-11-15 02:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 1⤊ 7⤋
Just because you shouldn't be trusting to a fault doesn't mean it's OK for you to violate her privacy! If you want your relationship to work, you have to learn to let her be. If she is calling some other guy, how do you know it's not because he is her Biology partner or something. I know that if a guy were to go through my phone it would look really bad but I just happen to hang out with a lot of guys. Relax. If you smother her, she's going to break away. Back off and let her come to you. If you view a relationship like a warranty or an investment, your asking for her to cheat on you. Keeping tabs is not a good idea. check up on her now and again but DO NOT be a control freak. She is not a purchase so let her do whatever she wants. If she is Cheating or doing something inappropriate, confront her about it in a diplomatic way.
Dude, chill out, she's not property.
2006-11-15 02:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by ichigo_li2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is not an investment, maybe an investment in time but thats about it. She is your girlfriends someone you share your time, thoughts, feelings with. You shouldn't have to keep tabs on who she is talking to it makes you look insecure and like you yourself have something to hide. I think that yes trust needs to be established but find another way to do it. She what she is like from far away with other guys and stuff before you go snooping. But you need to give her some trust I mean you are together for a reason. You don't want her or anyone else thinking that you're controling and jeolous do you?
2006-11-15 02:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kat A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the basis of any relationship! I'm in a steady relationship for 5 years now and neither of us have checked each others cell phones.
It's an invasion of your girlfriend's privacy!
I would never do this to my boyfriend, neither would he do a similar thing to me!
Secondly who gives you the right to go through somebody elses' belongings anyway?
You talk about keeping tabs on an investment. That's a good thing. You better do this by giving your girlfriend the feeling that she is loved and cared for instead of checking up on her!
2006-11-15 02:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by alternative_be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes And No. Yes Because It Means You May Have Trust Issues And If She Finds Out That Could Be The End. But Also No Because If She Has Nothing To Hide She WOnt Get Mad.
2006-11-15 02:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly & Matt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is really wront to go through her cell phone. Trust is very important and if you get caught in the act your trust will be lost. Privacy is important in relationships too and you need to give your girlfriend some. Going through her phone is a violation of her privacy. Doing something like that could end a great relationship.
2006-11-15 02:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by stubergal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong... These days...trust is something that comes prior to getting into a "relationship"
Now days simply hopping into bed with someone can be like taking a bullet to the head. I am assuming that you rank you life up there with your investments? One would think that in order for you to lay your life down in bed with her you must have "trusted" her? With that being said.....what would be the point of checking her cell?
2006-11-15 02:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. It is an invasion of privacy. How would you like her to go through your wallet to see if she could find your little black book?
You said it yourself, trust is earned and if this is the way you believe you will earn her trust, you are very mistaken. It sounds like you don't have much of a foundation to build on if you are already going through her cell. Maybe this isn't the right gal for you.
2006-11-15 02:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love my bf because i didn't have to EARN trust. he just handed it out freely to me. and our relationship is not an investment but a free connection.
if you are scared that something might happen to you. you can just be sure that it will!!
so: no,no and once again NO
2006-11-15 02:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is completely wrong. I have been married for five years, and I still wouldn't go through her phone just to check on her.
It sounds to me like you have a self confidence problem. This is especially creepy with guys, as it is the first step towards abuse. You need to either trust her simply because you do, or get the hell out.
2006-11-15 02:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't given you a reason to feel a lack of trust, I think it's kind of an invasion of privacy to check the numbers on her phone to see who she's called / is calling her. I mean, I know that if my bf was doing that to me, I'd be pretty offended. It's not just about trust - it's about privacy. If you are having trouble with trusting her, it's something good to talk about with her. It'll bring you guys closer! :)
2006-11-15 02:44:08 · answer #11 · answered by nalznkoz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋