ive known for about a year that my fiance "touches" me while im sleeping. Hes very good at knowing when im sleeping or fake sleeping so i cant catch him in the act, and if i ask him about it he denies it. I wouldnt care that he does it if he would just admit it and tell me why. I might enjoy it and even play along, but right now it kind of creeps me out. It started when i got pregnant and we stopped making love as much but now im skinny again and the sex is getting even more infrequent and he seems to be touching me more at night. Is this a normal fetish for guys to have? What can i say that will get him to admit it?
2006-11-15 02:29:46 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Different, but hey everyone has their things. Just get yourself to join in. If you know he's doing it, find a way to play along.
2006-11-15 02:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a fetish and possibly deviant behaviour. Just cause you think you might like to play along, that is not what he is seeking. He doesn't want you awake, or being aware. I would confront him about this immediately and don't play stupid, tell him you were awake and want to know what this is all about. Now if you want to work it out and allow him to do this, wait until you have an explanation. You might not find this trait so attractive when you have children and he does it to them. Ya know what I am saying? So find out now, just what this is all about, and how far he is willing to go with it before agreeing to doing anything to participate in it. If after talking about it, you are comfortable offering a compromise, then by all means, do so. It might be a little kinky, but I'd want to know how kinked my mans brain was before I gave him carte blanch to do what he likes while I'm asleep, whether I am really or not. YA KNOW? Good luck!
2006-11-15 10:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Should Just Be Stright Up With Him. Just Tell Him That You Know The He Does It And You Wouldnt Mind Just As Long As He Admits To It. He Should Understand. And You Need To Talk About Your Sex Life Together.
2006-11-15 10:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly & Matt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for all men to touch their women at night. However, most don't deny it. You need to confront him about it. If he still denies it, then dump him. This could be something sick in this man's head that is going on. Some sick guys out there like sex better when their partner is unconscience or in a state of sleep. This is something that could become way worse, so address it as soon as possible. Good luck.
2006-11-15 10:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So WHAT??????
He is your fiance!!!! Why can't he touch you? Why does it bother you????
Why does he have to admit anything. Why not just lay there and enjoy it!!!! Or even better touch back!!!!!!!
WHY question it? Now if you were a virgin and sleeping together with the promise of no sex (I have done this before) then yes, you have a RIGHT to complain! But, since you have his baby and you are your almost married, sooooooo what?????????
Enjoy it!!!! And don't worry about whether he admits it or not, UNLESSSSS you think you have someone breaking in just to touch you at night!!!! And you want to confirm it was really him!!!! hahahaha
2006-11-15 10:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by The Ultimate Nerd 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that's weird maybe you should give him some before you go to sleep.not being mean or disrespectful but you should proud of him and yourself because hes not creeping out wile you are sleeping getting it from some were Else and your p*ssy is so good that it keeps him home and he enjoys it even if you don't participate.
2006-11-15 10:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by equality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Covert night-vision video camcorder should do the trick.
Often it is the thrill of doing something naughty with a risk of getting caught.
Try touching him when he is asleep.
Alternatively, fake being asleep and touch yourself.
2006-11-15 10:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by nathan s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to start giving him some good sex at day time and see what happens at night times
2006-11-15 10:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by terrybogle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you know what he's doing, and that you find it extremly disrespectful that he's touching you sexually when you are asleep and not really in a position to say "yes" or "no."
If he won't stop, try separate beds for a while and see what that does!
2006-11-15 10:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by BasketChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him that is really wired. If you can't talk about this then you really need to think about if you want to marry him. He shouldn't be afraid to fess up if you are planing to spend eternity with each other unless you are planing your divorce for a few years after your marriage.
2006-11-15 10:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋