Am I a good girlfriend...or a bad girlfriend?!?

Question

He's only had it twice in the last week, and won't stop nagging!!
How many times have you had sex in the last week, and are you single or in a relationship?

Answer 1

married here.

did it yesterday so he'd leave me alone for a few more days.

usually once or twice a week.

Answer 2

That you're giving it to him at all is amazing. When it gets to the nagging I cannot stand it and basically want to give it even less. Here is the question. Do you love him? Is there something else going on with your relationship? You don't mention age ranges so I am guessing your drive is not slowed by aging (although many people have active s** lives into their later years anyway!) Is he a controlling person? I know that had an affect on someone I know.

Sometimes when one is pre-occupied with other issues in life--work, family, finances, etc there may less desire than the other one would like. Perhaps the two of you have peaked at different times. Really I would suggest talking to him about it if you can. If you can't, is he really the one for you when you cannot communicate?

I guess bless you for putting up with him and saving someone else from his nagging.

So you don't feel bad, I have not had it with the person I supposedly am "involved" with for over two weeks and really am not interested in doing so because of the nagging I am getting! He wants self-gratification and is not attentive to the other person's needs/wants. So there you are guys... Little lesson for you. Make sure you are pleasing the one you are with and not just yourselves or ... you could get cut off.

Answer 3

When it comes to sex in a relationship, things can get touchy. The advice I give about the subject is this....if the man wants sex all the time from you, then he's not a very good boyfriend. I don't know your views on it or exactly what you feel about it, so I can't say you're a good or bad girlfriend, but you do seem uneasy about his "need" for it often.

Sex isn't as important as people make it out to be. You should ask him why it is exactly he wants sex from you so often, and what it has to do with the relationship you two have, and how it could hinder or help the future.

It's important to talk about this type of issue with your partner immediately, because if you don't it could lead to frustration between you and him, and could eventually end the relationship.

Best of luck and don't give into him if YOU don't want to.

-Mick

Answer 4

I'm in a new relationship - been about 3ish months now. I made him wait just under a month before sleeping with him. But now it’s like every night, and a lot of mornings - if I’m lucky. (I have a high sex drive)
BUT saying this, sex isn’t everything, you need to have good grounds for a relationship to work, and it shouldn’t just be about sex.
Both parties should enjoy it, and everyone should have it as often as it feels comfortable.
Like in my relationship, one has a higher sex drive than the other, so this can be a little frustrating at times, but its all cool, we stay up just chatting sometimes, and I really like that.
And anyway, twice a week is fine; you have nothing to worry about there. Maybe he just (like I’ve said above) has a higher sex drive than yourself - this is not a bad thing, its different for everyone, and depending on your partner. With my last boyfriend - with him for almost 7 years, sometimes we would go months without it, this was because he never done it for me. Yes I was going grey, and pulling my hair out, but we had other things that made our relationship work. - But that’s another story. Lol

So in all, no you’re not a bad girlfriend.

Answer 5

I'm in a relationship and I don't mind having it twice in a week, but I usually prefer four times a week. I don't know how close you are and how much you trust each other, but sometimes being stingy on sex can lead your partner to seek it elsewhere. If he wants it that bad, then just dish it, but do explain to him why you don't like it that much. The main thing is for you two to get along and enjoy yourselves with or without sex. If he only loves you for sex, then you have to rethink as to whether he is the right person for you. You are acting normally, and that to me makes you a good girlfriend.

Answer 6

I suppose its what is usual for you two. I'm in a relationship and only made love once this week and according to a v. sexy text I got today the total tonight should be three or four! fingers crossed! I've been with my partner for fourteen years now - and we've had weeks go by without any and weeks where its constant - you're a good girlfriend!

Answer 7

Have had it 6 times in the last 5 months

Answer 8

You are a fine girlfriend. Twice in the last week is normal. I've been married 18 years, and we get it about 2 to 3 times a week. I think your boyfriend shouldn't complain, and maybe take care of himself if he needs to! He sounds like a big baby...watch out!

Answer 9

You're obviously not "Bad" enough! lol

Men want "it" as often as possible so they moan if they're not getting enough. Women want quality not quantity but even so, only twice in a week is a bit mean!

Make a pact with him to enjoy the act of loving often but not on demand!

Personally I haven't had sex with my wife for over 3 years now although I have had a fling that "scratched my itch" so don't think I'm sticking up for your boyfriend!

Answer 10

You're just cooling off. The average american does it once a week. My friends do it twice a week if they are lucky (1 three yr old in the house). Before I got divorced I did it once a month and then not at all.

If you have been together more than a year I would think he is being unreasonable. Less than a year, you should probably be doing it more often.

Answer 11

twice in a week? shoot, that's good! the longer you're with someone, the less sex you have. just be happy that your man is still pursuing you like he is but if he's being a little baby then that can get annoying. as a guy i realized that this is the power of a woman. if there's any sex going on at all, it's all on her.