She´s away and we told her by leaving a message on her voice mail since we couldn´t reach her. She sent a short email saying that was nice, but ever since then (2 weeks now), she hasn´t called any of us to officially tell us how happy she was! She already talked to her son on the phone on one occasion, without a single mention of the whole baby thing!
2006-11-15 02:12:45 · 30 answers · asked by blackmagic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you're suffering from EMILS (evil mother-in-law syndrome). I'm sure she was hoping that you'd leave her son at some point, but now that you've got a bun in the oven, her hopes are dashed.
2006-11-15 02:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does seem a bit odd, you'd think that she'd be really excited about becoming a grandmother. Unless she has something that is worrying her. Do you get on with your mother-in-law? Why don't you go around an visit her and make the announcement again, maybe she is a little annoyed that you told her by leaving her a voicemail message instead of telling her in person. After you do that if she isn't happy then maybe you can ask your husband to find out if you or if he has done something to upset her
2006-11-15 10:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you two married? If not, then that may be a factor in how she feels(old fashioned). Maybe there is an under-lying issue that you, her son and she need to talk about. It isn't normal, yet you are not the only one who has gone through this. Maybe you need to come out and ask her why she doesn't seem that thrilled. Perhaps she wasn't ready for the grandparent role, and will come around later. You will never know unless you ask. But give it a while before doing so, that way emotions are put aside. Good luck and congrats! :)
2006-11-15 10:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever think that maybe she is hurt by the way she was told. I mean, you left a message on the answering machine. She might be waiting for you to call her and officially announce the pregnancy. Some moms are funny like that. You should be the better one here and invite her over for dinner. Then you can talk about the pregancy and why you had to leave the message. Good luck.
2006-11-15 10:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either 1) she isn't happy over the news or 2) she's one of those that just doesn't get excited. My mom is that way. She doesn't get excited over anything, and it's something I've grown used to. As long as you and your hubby is happy about your news, then stop expecting everyone else around you to be just like you. Good luck with the baby and congratulations!!!
2006-11-15 10:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the normal course,she should be excited;she should have congratulated.Something...... going on and,possibly,this is not the beginning.You know it?
Take an active role to keep the whole family happy;and you are the 1st to get the joy out of that.Sure,feel the difference.That emotional climate would be wonderful in the days to come....GOOD LUCK...
2006-11-15 10:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by KRMD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she isn't happy about it. Some women aren't thrilled about being grandmothers. Or maybe she doesn't think you 2 are ready for a family. Or perhaps she doesn't think you will make a good mother. Or she might think her son won't make a good father. Or she might think you aren't good enough for her son and now he will be stuck in a marriage because of children.
As you can see, there could be a million reasons. So don't drive yourself nuts, just talk with your MIL and see what she says.
2006-11-15 10:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience some people including family are very inconsiderate about others feelings.I've always dealt with things like this with turning the cheek the other way. If someone is rotten to me I'm nice to them" You know hot coals on their heads" I find this makes people think. No matter what life throws at you always remember it's better to be nice and to respect our elders.
Congratulations on you news.
2006-11-15 10:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not be disheartened.. some old folks are a bit slow when it comes to stuffs like these. i am sure she is very much as elated as you and your husband are. it's just that some old folks find it hard to express themselves and would rather express their happiness in actions such as buying gifts for their little grandson or even helping you prepare for the coming of the little one. the thing is, don't be disheartened, i am sure she shares your joy.
good luck and congratulations on the baby. God bless the two of you.
2006-11-15 10:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is normal. Do you have issues with your mother in law? Normally if people have issues with their in laws their in laws act like @ssholes. She should be happy for both of you shes going to have a precious little grand kid on the way!! What could be more joyous than that?
2006-11-15 10:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋