Do dirty words call for soap or hot sauce?

Question

How do I get my 4year old son to stop saying the B word, now he has his twin sister saying it.? spanking or washing his mouth with soap will helo?

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Answer 1

Try rubbing soap on his teeth....He wont be saying that any time soon..

Answer 2

I usually don't answer questions with this many responses already, but I used a different technique with my kids (who are now 11, 12 and 16) and it worked great.

First of all, there is no such thing as a "good" word or a "bad" word. Words are only bad if they are used to hurt other people.

However, there are some words that kids can use, and words that grown ups can use, and that word, the "b" word, is a grown up word. The reason it's a grown up word is because grown ups know what it means, and when to use it so it doesn't hurt other people. You need to learn that - you're a kid - which is why it is a word for grown ups only.

Now - sounds kinda strange to be saying this to a 4 year old, but it had two effects on my kids.

First, they would call each other out on using "grown up words".

Second, they wouldn't even FLINCH when they heard an actual grown up use one of those words.

It absolutely worked. And I have one child who is developmentally disabled, and he understood the concept just as well as the two who are of normal intelligence.

Don't EVER use soap or hot sauce. I'm not a big fan of spanking either, but I do like the "grown up word" jar idea - put in money or something of value of the child's when he utters a grown up word.

The best advice I can give is to NOT make a huge production out of it when he says one. If he's doing it for attention, that will make it worse.

Answer 3

Don't use hot sauce, whatever you do! (that is abuse)

Soap should be a last resort.

It is common for 4 year olds to say bad words, and the more you respond to it, (the more attention he receives ) the more he will be likely to repeat them.

Tell him "we don't say that word" when you do catch him, give him a stern look, and remove him immediately from whatever he is doing. Make him stop his activity for a few minutes (up to 4--one minute per year is the conventional time out rule)

Pretty soon it will be "no fun" to say bad words.

If you are out in public, remove him from wherever you are and take him home. that's no fun either. and let him know he will not be going out again until he cleans up his act.

Answer 4

I am STRONGLY against using soap and definitely hot sauce as a punishment for saying a bad word. I would for one change your language to only "clean" words therefore she doesn't hear it from you because you do set an example. No I'm not saying you say those words but if you do then you should stop. Secondly ignoring them can also help because your 4 year old probably does it for attention. If you do anything at all I think a timeout will work if you stick to it EVERY time and don't back down.

Answer 5

You have a four year old who has done his best to get your attention. Using four-letter words did what his good behavior did not, got your attention. Now what? First off when he says that word again explain to him that it is not a good word and that good boys do not speak like that. Second if he does it again and he will, take his favorite toy away and tell him that he has to go a whole day without saying the bad word to get it back. Remember while doing this to notice the good things he does. Does he play nicely with his sister? Did he share toys at playgroup. Was he well-behaved at preschool? Did he remember to say please and thank you. As you start to notice the good things and punish the bad you will notice that the bad word will stop and you will get even more good behaviors. Soap and hot sauce might work I don't know I never used either. But praising good behaviors always worked.

Answer 6

Neither, try sitting him down and explaining what that word represents in today's society. Let him know that it is a degrading word and that it makes you feel unhappy when he uses the word. most importantly, check out the surroundings, inform those that are coming in contact with your children to curve their language, they have to have more respect for the children, after all you can't blame them for repeating, that's how they learn. Unfortunately, you won't be around them at all times, so if you stop it while they're young, they won't embarrass you when they're old. Spare the rod....

Soap or hot sauce would be a form of abuse, he must have a favorite toy, or activity. After explaining that the word should never be used, start timeout and taking away things that he cares about.

Answer 7

Soap can make him sick. Hot sauce can actually burn the inside of his mouth and throat. (If you don't believe that ask your doctor-- I know a women who put hot sauce in her 17 month old daughter's mouth and ended up in the emergency room, she lied about how her daughter got the hot sauce! This women was used to hot sauce, she uses it in cookin) I realize that some cultures believe they are immune to spicy things but they are not a 4 year old. that isn't punishment, it's torture.

I wonder where he learned that word? From Barney, the Doodlebops, or perhaps it was the Wiggles? Maybe your son shouldn't be exposed to such language, then he won't repeat what he has heard. Maybe you could try hot sauce on the adult who is around him speaking in such language.

I do not swear. (not ever, not even in my head!) My son picked one up from my brother. I set my brother straight on what should not be said around my son and he respects that. My son who tried using this word was informed that it was not an acceptable word. I told him people get angry and say rude things that they shouldn't say because they can't think of anything else to say. I told him he is smarter than than. When he is angry he should try using a smart word to tell everyone he is angry. Then he won't get in trouble. I asked him "Does mommy use that word?" he knew the answer.

Teach by example not by torture.

Answer 8

He learning that word from somewhere.

Check your home language and then school language. Don't expect him to not use it if others like his father, uncle, aunt or even you use it.

Explain to him that those words are bad and not a good thing to say. They are mean, hurtful and unlikable.

Soap and hot sauce are dangerous to use for his health.

Answer 9

I've always heard that soap can have a terrible effect on some children. I 'm not willing to take that chance on my child! I have to say that I slap my child on the face when he says something ugly. Don't get me wrong...I don't slap hard just catch them off guard and move fast. Usually it is the element of suprise that really bothers them and makes them think about it the next time they might want to say something ugly. Remember not hard just fast! I hope this helps. If not, good luck!!!!

Answer 10

Absolutely not! That's horrible to suggest and won't teach your child anything. Start by taking away his privileges and or toys when he does it and slowly return them when he goes an adequate amount of time without swearing. And at 4 years old, he's probably not in school, so where is he learning this from? If it's you, then stop, if it's TV, then put on more appropriate shows, if its daycare, then find him a new one.

Answer 11

Don't use either. IMO, that borders on abuse, especially with a kid this young.

Instead, start by telling them that you don't want them to say that any more, and that they will get a time out any time they say this. If they persist, start taking away favorite toys, movies, TV time, etc. Pretty soon they'll learn that saying words like this cost them plenty. At 4 years old, losing a toy is a pretty traumatic thing.