How or what do you talk to guys about?

Question

I have a major problem. I seem to be able to have no problem talking to guys i dont fancy but guys i like i find it extremely hard to keep flowing conversations as im nervous and not able to be myself and my words come out all wrong. I feel awkward round guys i like cause im shy and never know what to say or act

Answer 1

You just need to boost your own self confidence a bit. Think to yourself that you are more then worthy and the best thing out there. When you believe this there will be no problem.

Answer 2

First of all don't be intimidated, they're just guys, human just as you. Second of all work on a technique that can help you relax when you're nervous or when you know you're about to get nervous. Thirdly, you can talk to guys about almost anything but just to add an extra help read a lot, keep yourself informed so you can find anything to talk about like a recent story in the news or latest sports happenings. Fourthly, you can't find the right chemistry for conversation with everyone, so be prepared to be disappointed with a few but also expect to have successes as well. Come on, chin up and be brave. Free yourself up a little and relax and just go with the flow. Before you know you're going to realise you're 20 mins into a conversation with a guy. Good luck.

Answer 3

I am the same way. It's hard!
Find out something about the guy you like. Their favorite sports team or tv show. Then do a little research. Find out which players are doing well, who's hurt, how much better or worse they are doing than last season. Then you will have things to talk about, and if he's really into them, he will probably do most of the talking.

Also, if you can talk to his friends, get to know them. Hang out with them. He will be there, and see that you are cool, and you will also get to know him in the process. That will make talking to him much easier!

Answer 4

I know what you mean! I used to be this way too! Remember though, don't try to act like someone you're not. Be you! If they like you for who you are, then that's the best thing and the REAL thing! Just talk to the guy the way you would talk to a friend. Just ask them questions to start up a conversation. Just say something like, "Are you going to the football game friday night?" And then just say your opinions about things and try and make little jokes. Smile and be yourself, they'll like this.

Answer 5

Guys talk bluntly to one another and love it when a chick does the same. Have strong opinions and just blurt them out, he'll either think, laugh or just tilt his head. And remember, you don't have to say anything all the time... plus, how do you know THEY aren't more nervous that you? Also, pretend you're on the other side of the planet talking to a foreign person, because when you think about it, it doesn't matter a wit whom you're standing in front of....we're all human. good luck.

Answer 6

It happens to most people who have a crush on someone.

Something I've found though is that it's sometimes easier to let the other person do most of the talking by asking them questions about themselves, rather than trying to think up lots of interesting things to say. That way you can just listen to them and throw in the odd comment here and there.

Don't fire off a whole load of questions at them like it's a gameshow or something, but people like to talk about themselves so why not let them do the work? ;)

Answer 7

Football

Answer 8

guys have the same problem it's just a confidence thing, ur worried that u might say something that puts him off, when u dont fancy the lad u dont give a damn so it's much easier to be ya self!
but u want someone who likes u for who u are so try & be yaself us guys like a down to earth genuine girl, faults can be attractive we all have em.

Answer 9

guys are into football,music and films hun im quite lucky cus i am also so i dont really have any problems!
maybe u just needc 2 relax more and stop trying to hard cus lads sense this,just chat about interesting things,keep eye contact,use good body language,smile and flirt a little-soon hun it will just get easier and easier.it helps if u feel good 2 about what your wearing! good luck im sure you will do fine x

Answer 10

well you can play hard to get and be noticed to the guys but don't say anything to them because then you won't be hard to catch!! if a guy notices you and you let him know that you like him right away he knows it won't be hard to get you so he would probably use you as a rebound! so be cool and sassy around the guys you like (but don't talk to them) and they will notice you and want to hang out but don't jump right away cause then they will know it wasn't much of a challenge to get you sorry but its the truth guys like challenges!!