and they see he is hurt and crying and is begging for her to stay and promising to change. Do u feel bad about dumping him. And do u take him back or do u wait a while and see if he can really change because after all everyone desires a second chance its written in the bible. Because im hoping my girlfriend will take me back once she see i have changed, and she dumped me because of my temper and im working on that, i mean no one is perfect we all have faults. I plan on going to college and being the best i can be with or without her and we will still be friends and continue hanging out so maybe then she can see how much i can changed and oh yeah MEN CAN CHANGED because there are good men out there and for all u women who think men cant change. You just ran into the wrong ones. And always remember that no man or woman is PERFECT.
2006-11-15 01:33:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would depend on how many times he has promised to change and what happened before.
It is true that we all have faults. However, some faults are easier to deal with than others. I for one could not stick with someone with temper problems, whether he was violent or not, because I don't like being with someone who makes me nervous.
Even at the end of your question you sounded like you were getting in a mood.
2006-11-15 01:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....of course I felt bad about dumping someone. It depends on the relationship as to wether I'd take someone back or not.
If the relationship just isn't working, nothing is going to change that, not even time.
Men can change, and so can women. It's great that you recognized that your temper is a problem and are working on it. It's also good to see that you are trying to move forward by going to college.
Right now I suggest that you stick to your plan of self improvement and really focus on that. Maybe she'll come back to you....or maybe the perfect girl for you is still out there waiting. You have to have faith that the right person for you will come along, even if it's not this particular girl.
2006-11-15 09:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by dark_firmament 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about most women, but with me when I break up with a guy, then that's it. I'm a firm believer that you have one chance to make it work, and if you cannot handle that the first time then I don't believe you can the second time either. Of course, I do have friends that gave their spouses a second chance and get along great. I never had a good experience taking someone back therefore I stopped doing so. And yes, everyone (men and women) can change for the better. If you say you have, then that's great for you. But don't be surprised if she doesn't give you and 2nd chance.
2006-11-15 09:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, women feel bad when dumping their boyfriends. There comes a time and point though when enough is enough. Women don't like to be controlled by men who try to guilt them into staying in a relationship they are unhappy in. You are right no one is perfect and everyone can change but you have a history that may not be able to overcome. So let her go, move on and be aware that there may be someone else out there who is waiting for you.
2006-11-15 09:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes when i have broke up with someone I felt bad about it even if they didn't cry and beg. I don't like breaking peoples hearts. Yes I agree that no one is perfect and yes everyone deserves a second chance, but only seconds not thirds or fourths. If someone is whole heartedly trying to change then they will on that second chance they get but if they don't they are not going to!
2006-11-15 09:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by outta my mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you had a bad habit, behavior or something that you felt you had to "change". As long as you stay that way. But just because she doesn't "like" you the way you are doesn't mean you're no good for every woman. I'm sure you feel you deserve another chance, talk to her, don't beg, have a little self pride. Maybe she isn't so great for you either.
2006-11-15 09:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will give you a chance if she really loves you, but she has to see your efforts to change. a bad temper will do you no good either, so make those changes more for yourself then her and everyone will be happy.
2006-11-15 09:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by coco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I saw my ex crying to me saying he loves me it made me cry but I knew that first he would have to show me not tell me and after waitting so long he did it he showed me he loves me even if it took 1 year now we are back together and he tells me he loves me then he shows it so you are right men do need second chances and it is never to late to get a 2 chance.
2006-11-15 09:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_happy_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really have been trying to channge, she will see that. But you have to see where she is coming from, a temper can be a very scary thing. i am glad that she ended it before your temper could of got out of control. it will work out.
2006-11-15 09:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Melly R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course men can change if they want to. notice i said if they want to, but this applies to anyone not just men. its good you want to improve yourself regardless of whether you are with her or not. concentrate on making your life great for yourself and the rest will fall into place. if it is meant to be, it will be. i know its hard to hear that but its very true. good luck. may all your dreams come true.
2006-11-15 09:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by jenkins_nichole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋