He cheated four weeks ago told me last Friday, HE DIDN'T USE PROTECTION! Tells me that they didn't kiss or had any foreplay it was just penetration, they didn't even take off their clothes and she made the first move and now that i'm pissed and broken up about it he behaves as if i dont have any right to be upset because he was honest enough to tell me... and now he's not answering his phone when i call not returning my text messages... what is really happening??!!
2006-11-15 01:30:25 · 18 answers · asked by terrybogle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he wants to be a free man!!! I'm not sure what to make of it but if he is trying to say you shouldnt be upset about it then he doesnt deserve you. because most woman would have left his a**. If you think hard about the situation he put your life in danger, HE DIDN'T USE PROTECTION!! He could have gave you an STD or anything. What if the girl is pregnant all types of things would be running through my mind. If he won't answer don't call him anymore. Don't sweat him he is the one that messed up not you so dont beat yourself up about it. True enough you love him or what not and dont want to live without him, but there is someone out there for you that will make him seem like he never existed. You have to learn to love and let love go. Its his fault and not yours, and now he has lost a great woman. But if you still want to be with him despite of all this, give him time to come around. You're going to get tired of calling him, and you will realize his gone. I mean maybe he got this girl preganat and doesnt know how to face you and maybe thats why he came clean. But I can be wrong. I think you should do something to occupy your time and if its meant to be you and him will be. because why in the first place he was even with another girl.
I hope i made a little sense out of all this. If you ever need to chat you can e-mail me and I will be more than happy to chat with you
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2006-11-15 01:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I think you know exactly what is happening. This man is no good. You deserve better than that if you really think about it. Do you want a man that just "penetrates" any woman that is available? Where is the respect? Where is the loyalty? Where is the love? Move on. Find someone that deserves and earns the right to be with you.
2006-11-15 01:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to stop chasing him, stop calling him so much and stop texting him! He is the one that messed up not you so he should be the one chasing you! If he cheated on you then you know what he is not even worth it. Don't waste your time on him, find someone who will really care for you! Also that was really immature of him to have sex without protection, there are a lot of diseases out there. If you guys had sex (without protection) after his little miss hap then I suggest you go get checked.
I know its hard, because you care about him or love him. But believe me it will get easier, just break up with him and find yourself someone worthy of you!
Best of luck!
2006-11-15 01:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't take their clothes off but there was penetration? A penis can't penetrate a vaginia unless someone unzips his fly and "readjusts" his briefs, and in a sense that is "taking his clothes off" so unless he did that I doubt there was prenetration with anything other than his hands and if his fingers can ejaculate semen I'd alert the government that an alien spaceship is in the area.
2006-11-15 01:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh just drop him. If he is not sorry for what he did or even thinks that what he did was wrong then he will do it again. That is something that you don't need. Next or even this time he could bring something home to you. Plus a man that has no control is not ready to be in a relationship. Stop calling him and let him go.
2006-11-15 01:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is happening is it is over & you should be very happy to be rid of him. Penetration though still-on clothing, ehh? Better luck with the next 1.
2006-11-15 01:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by vegas_iwish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's turning this around to make it about you instead of about him & his stupidity. Cut your losses & get out. He obviously doesn't care about you, not only because he cheated but he didn't use protection! He didn't consider the STD's he could pass on to you. I'd make an apt. with my OBGYN to get checked, you can never be too sure. Good luck!
2006-11-15 01:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by medicbev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. he's acting like that because it him it didn't mean anything more than sex. no emotions or intimacy was involved in the act. he expects you to see it the way he does because he does not really think he cheated on you. of course this is narcissictic (sp?) behaviour from him and you need to show him how wrong he is. show him by leaving him to enjoy himself without you.
the best revenge is to move on, leaving him in the past and getting yourself someone who values and respects you much more than that.
if you forgive him, you are telling him that what he did does not matter as much as it did.
be strong.
2006-11-15 01:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by cajoesgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he wants to break up with you. Dump his a**. If he cheated once and it doesn't bother him he'll do it again. Also his not using protection is putting you at risk for catching a STD. He's not worth it.
2006-11-15 01:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force the issue, or better yet find someone who could stay faithful and one who does not drop his pants at the first sight of a skirt.
2006-11-15 01:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋