My entire life has been a disaster, but I continue to attract all the wrong type of men! They end up breaking my heart, every time, but I still can't avoid these situations!! I just got thrown out of a two year relationship...once again....with him telling me...I AM WEIRD!!! I have always been a compationate type of gal, so...what the H*LL?? How can I avoid being heatbroken...all the time? I am 51 years old and have never been in a relationship very long without something going wrong!!! I am about to give up trying!!
2006-11-15 01:25:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have Faith in Your Own Self, dear : And remember that 'Whenever God closes a door, He always opens a window'.
Best of Luck.
2006-11-15 01:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Shushana 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I did the same thing over and over. At the end of my last relationship I honestly sat back and looked at all the similar things between the men that were destructive. I actually physically wrote down a list of things I would not be acceptable to me in a man, and I wrote a list of attributes which I would look for in a man. By doing these lists it made me much more aware of the danger signs, and how my past men contained so many traits of the "not to accept" list and how few things they had on the "want" list. It was soon after that (about a month) that the most wonderful man entered my life. This man has every single thing I wanted on the good list and not one of the bad. He is opposite to every man I had been with. When a person has been with destructive men they start to feel they don't deserve any better and they don't seek any better than what they had. Once u know u are worthy of so much more, u become a different person and will attract a totally different type of man. Don't "settle" anymore, wait for that special man and he will come.
2006-11-15 01:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe you fall in love too easily and possibly for the wrong reasons? You can avoid this situation in the future by realizing your pattern and breaking it. Only YOU can stop it!!!! Take control of your life and your relationships and quit playing the victim role. Things are always going to go wrong in relationships because that's human nature, but take responsibility and be accountable for your actions and decisions. Things will start to change for the better when you realize that you are contributiing to these relationships. Every woman attracts the wrong type of guy once in awhile, but take it upon yourself NOT TO GET INVOLVED with them! I'd recommend getting a book on relationships or speaking with a therapist. Good luck!
2006-11-15 01:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
And just why do you think it's about you? A lot a men don't need a reason to cheat other that availability. She was there are the moment and his brain took the night off. No excuse though. And no don't spend your life thinking you have to impress him or anyone else with what you look like. Beauty starts from within. Yeah I'm also from the south with a screwed up family. I learned to overcome though.
2016-03-19 08:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not because you are bad or weird but your own mind is doing that. Our Subconscious mind is very powerful tool. We are what we think. In your mind you have these feeling that you attract wrong men and that happen.
By practicing you can turn negative thought in to positive like many others.
Please don't give up, have you ever seen a samll baby how many time a baby tre to stand and walk but never give up and after a lot of failure and attempt one day that baby walk by holding legs and things.
You are better than that baby aren't you?
If you need help send mail nihon94@yahoo.com
2006-11-15 01:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ari 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You attract all types of men but you choose the wrong ones. There is someone for everyone. Probably you are looking for guys at the wrong places. Take a time out from seeking guys, they normally come to you when you aren't expecting it.
2006-11-15 01:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by RACQUEL 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are most deffinitly not the problem. You need to find someone who loves you for all your corks. Some women really tend to lean towards the bad boys, people who don't really love you because maybe you think you don't deserve it. Or maybe not maybe you truely just attract bad men. Either way I would suggest using an online dating place but choose one that really will help you find your soul mate not the ones just looking to hook people up. This will help you find someone who is serious about comitment and loves you for you and you won't have to worry about attracting the wrong men. Best of luck, he is out there, you just have to find him. Don't give up!
2006-11-15 01:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best thing i can say is enjoy the bits and pieces you gather from any relationship an move on. Maybe once you stop looking he'll be there, is it possible he's already in your life you just have noticed him.
By the way i could be in the million man march and pull out the one jobless, lame, gameplayer in the bunch, so your not alone.
Good Luck
2006-11-15 01:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by Reenell W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh girlfriend, i used to be you at one time, but you know what i found out, after a lot of soul searching? A person will go after what they are used to having without even realizing it, and that what i was doing, and so are you!
I'll tell you how to stop that, set some goals for yourself, figure out what type of person you want, the next one you meet, if he doesnt set your expectations, get rid of him! Thats what i did until i finally found what i wanted, now im happily married, best man in the world girl! And hes nothing like the guys i used to date, nothing at all! Pay attention to your life, and it will happen, you can fix it!
2006-11-15 02:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from the guys for a while. Find the things you enjoy and down the road find a man that enjoys the same things. You have to know who you are before you can find it in anyone else. Good luck and hang in there.
2006-11-15 01:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋