Gals, if ur guy do such, will u be mad at him?
2006-11-15 01:16:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How could I say no? That would be awesome! Do guys actually still do that??? Go for it!
2006-11-15 01:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
I'm a gal and I would be impressed with a man who had the guts to consult my parents before asking me to marry him.
But I wouldn't wait too long to propose after consulting the parents. Secrets should not remain in a family for long. Secrets lead to strife eventually.
Of course, each person is different. What is your girlfriend like? Does she get along well with her parents? If she has a good relationship with her parents, by all means consult them first. If she doesn't get along with her parents, you might be better off leaving them out of the whole thing.
Good Luck!
2006-11-15 02:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your girl — and her parents.
A lot of women think it's sweet and old-fashioned.
Other women would see it as suggesting you think she's property.
And there are parents who would just eat it up, and parents who would say no because they don't like you, and parents who would just laugh at the concept.
And regardless of which kind, making the wrong choice sort of seems (to her AND her parents) like you don't know her well enough, and don't care enough to find out what she would prefer.
My suggestion: Talk to her about it, not us. Ask how she thinks these things should be done. If you're close with her friends, siblings or parents, ask them.
2006-11-15 01:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ethel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a widow and now remarried... My husband now, wrote each one of my children a letter telling them how he felt about their mom and asked them if they would accept him into the family if he were to ask me to marry him... My girls were so impressed and touched that he cared enough to do that. He also went to my parents and mentioned to them his intentions and they were pleased that he was willing to include them into the process.. I was 40 years old at the time so even on a 2nd marriage it's still important to include the family around you into the plans.. Good Luck and Congrats....
2006-11-15 01:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by tmjf461 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our culture has lost so much of the "good manners" that used to be the norm. This would be a very nice gesture and should not upset your girlfriend. She should be proud that you are polite and wanting to include her parents by honoring them in this way.
2006-11-15 01:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not over doing it, I am sure both your girlfriend and her parents will be very pleased with you for being so considerate. Good luck to you and Congratulations. God bless*
2006-11-15 01:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not!!! Before my husband asked for my hand, he went to my dad and asked him for his blessings. Not only did that impress my dad, but it made my heart melt even more.
After all, in some sense, you will be taking her from her parent's care into yours and it would be nice to let her parents know that you respect them.
2006-11-15 01:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Hestia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hopefully they already like you,,i should imagine to do this would make them love you,,it shows respect for their opinion which can only be a good thing to have,,they raised the person you love and to ask would be something to remember.i hope you are a good person who respects their daughter and treats her well ,,as they will have hoped she would find!
2006-11-15 01:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a very old fashioned sweet thing to do - especially if you are close to her family! Go for it ~ it is actually very sweet.
2006-11-15 01:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋