I am a smart girl and I have really tried to make my relationship work. I love my bf with all my heart and I would do anything for him but he is depressed and most of our problems stem from that. For example, when his depression gets worse he becomes very impulsive (a common symptom) and he does things that are totally out of character and feel like I cant trust him anymore.
Is it possible to make a relationship work with someone in a deep depression?
Will he ever get better or is this something that he will always have?
He doesn't have the motivation to get better, so should I give up on him??
The reason this sucks is bc deep down I really love him and I want to make it work. I just don't know if its possible.
2006-11-15 01:01:33 · 5 answers · asked by plenymo 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sometimes it's Too painful to continue!
And then you have to make a choice between Existing in a Relationship or The Depression will start to affect YOU!
2006-11-15 01:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step is two-fold: He has to WANT TO help himself. I know you said he doesn't have the motivation to get better. Until he gets motivated or hits rock bottom--which ever happens first, he can't be helped by anybody. 2nd: I know you say you love him with all of your heart and would do anything for him. If that's so, don't be his rescuer (someone who keeps hanging on and winds up letting someone else's situation "suck their life out of them".). Try awhile longer. If you see that he's still "sucking the life out of you" with this, move on. There are more people worth having.
2006-11-15 09:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...I'm almost in tears...
I was on the other side of this
about 2 months ago
I had been dating him for about 6 months
we loved/love eachother to death
I have clinical depression
a disorder that u can only fix w/medication
I am also bipolar and have ALOT of issues
I know where he is.
but my boyfriend was very upset by my ways
he couldn't take it when I was depressed.
so, he broke up with me for his better.
now I am NOT suggesting that you break it off
anywhoooo, I was devastated.
I tried to kill myself id dillusion
well, anyway it happened to be a good thing
b/c I got help and was diagnosed
I am now on medication
I'm much much happier
and I still am good friends with my ex.
I know I haven't told you what to do
but I hope this helps.
message me on 360 and tell me
your final decsion, if you would.
goodluck and take care
Gracie B.
2006-11-15 09:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by grace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to help your boyfriend? Get medical assistance. This is a serious matter you can't handle alone. You need all the help you can gather with him. Be there to support him emotionally, but don't take this burden all by yourself. Seek proffessional counseling.
2006-11-15 09:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by M'lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-11-15 13:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋