There are times when I will be near a woman that looks especially pretty or she is wearing an outfit that really compliments her. Is it okay to tell her "You look really nice today." or, as a man am I seen as some kind of freak trying to pick up on her?
2006-11-15 01:01:25 · 18 answers · asked by Patrick B 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have often stopped people of any type or persuasion and said things like. You seem like a very kind person and I just wanted you to know that I noticed.
I passed a lady in town quite often while walking around. She is perhaps seventy five now but every time I see her she is dressed very nicely and I told her that I have often noticed that she takes great care with her appearance and that I appreciate it.
I have been stunned by beauty, or kindness, or friendliness or or or etc etc etc, even just the way a smile lites up.
As long as you are sincere and constructive and humble, go ahead, but if you do have an ulterior motive, then also be truthful.
2006-11-15 02:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by richardnattress 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always like to give a compliment to people as it opens repore. As other people suggested, some women may take it the wrong way. Some women may think you are trying to "hit" on her and make a move. I honestly don't know why a women would even think that over a compliment but then again I'm not a women and have not be subjected to harassment. If you don't know her well, or she is a passerby on the street, I wouldn't. You are a stranger and she will whisk pass you. If it is a coworker or someone whom you know just a little then sure. But if after you make the comment and she walks away suddenly, do not tell her again. Pick up on these nonverbal cues.
2006-11-15 12:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by Professor Bradley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You look lovely today. Is that a new hair-do?"
is very nice and appropriate for almost any situation.
Any comment with more detail than that should be reserved for women you know well, like old friends, sisters, etc.
Its never polite to pick out a woman's physical features for comment. Never remark on the size, shape or 'jiggle' of a woman's breasts or butt.
There are so many ways to compliment a woman. Just be sincere, sensitive and original. Notice things like if they're wearing perfume, or if their fingernails have a fancy manicure.
Do not give compliments expecting something in return, like another compliment or conversation.
There will always be women who think that all guys are hitting on them. Men in general are responsible for putting women on 'the defensive' because a few of us have given all of us a bad reputation. Don't reinforce that poor image.
2006-11-15 10:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"You look really nice today" is only aplicable if you know how she looks on other days. If you complimenting a woman you do not know, she may thing you are trying to pick her up (I know I would), but that doesn't mean she will think you are a freak, even if she is not interested in you. All women like to be complimented wheather the will admit it or not. A guy tring to pick you up is the biggest compliment.
As far as co-workers go, you may tell them they look nice. This is not sexual harrastment folks!
2006-11-15 12:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. If she looks nice all the time, then you could say, not that you don't look nice all the time, but that outfit really becomes you or that is really your color would be nice. If she usually dresses down and then looks really nice one day you could say wow, you look really nice today and she should take it as a compliment.
2006-11-15 16:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you are. Never do it at work. Don't even comment when they cut their hair. Just leave 'em alone. In public it depends on the person. Some may think it is a harmless compliment and thank you, but others will think that you are trying to put the moves on them. It just depends on the woman. In my opinion it's harmless. I'm all for compliments - they help counteract all the negativity.
2006-11-15 11:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of a sticky situation. Some women will throw a fit, and other's (like me) will take the compliment. If you know the woman, work with her, friends with her, etc. then yes, it's quite ok to say she looks nice. Don't do this to strangers as they may take this as harrassment (sad, but in society today it's true).
2006-11-15 09:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends on where you are, you shouldnt do it at work unless you know that woman, or anywhere in public out of the blue. Unless your at a club, or a bar, or maybe if you start a casual conversation and she seems intersted in you then you definatly should! Women love to be flattered, but with so many people out there that are unlike you, and are just trying to score some booty, we dont wana hear it from just any guy.
2006-11-15 09:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jimmi H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may look at it like that but if you say you look nice today smile and look away she has to know you just wanted to give her a compliment
2006-11-15 10:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by Tosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patrick...obviously there are many answers to this. On the whole its probably better not to say it to a woman you do not have a personal relationship with. But, by all means, say it to your mom, your sister, your aunt, grandma and girlfriend, they will probably love it.
2006-11-15 10:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋