My boyfriend sometimes says there is no point to life, we all die anyway, so why put it off? I have been with him for 4 years, and yes he has been diagnosed for depression and is taking medication... All i want to know is how can I respond to this particular question?
2006-11-15 00:51:06 · 16 answers · asked by plenymo 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Please dont judge him, you have no IDEA what he has been thru in life
2006-11-15 01:09:28 · update #1
Suicide always effects many more then we realize. I would suggest you print out the first link and share it with him and let him know there are people who care about him, and about you.
It is a message on suicide and how it does effect so many others..with some real solutions that show we do not need to resort to this.
2006-11-15 00:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must be extremely depressed and should be taking his medication...encourage him to do this, and he should be taking Omega 3, with every meal...It's not expensive, and has been shown to help with depression.
Can you find things to do with him that would cheer him up? Maybe rent some comedy movies. Play positive and nice music. Go out and do fun things, parties. Take his mind off serious things, play challenging board games.
Be thankful to God, together, for all his blessings.
If he thinks there is no point to life, do something challenging. Visit a hospital where kids are really ill, and he will count his blessings.
If he still believes there is no point to life, read the Bible together, and challenge yourselves to finding the real point to life...which is to be the best we can be, with the knowledge that we have. To keep improving ourselves and being a hopeful and good example to others who just might see God ( or good) in us...You never know how changing his attitude could help someone who needs some inspiration..
God Bless you both.
2006-11-15 09:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoCieCie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is strange that we still have ourselves to blame for something on nothing, You might have lost something, but you are not dead yet. Stop complaining and start living. In spite of what you’ve been through, there’s an awesome potential in you. Don’t waste it. The world has not yet seen the best of you. Hope is the confident expectation of future good. It is the belief that something good will happen to you.
Hope is having a little light in the dark tunnel of your frustrated mind. It is the projection of your imagination beyond your present pains. So whatever force that's being laid on you be sure that you can still make it through no matter what.
Adversity breaks some men, but others break records with it. You can turn your liabilities into assets. The truth is that all of us are depressed in some way, but you can’t excel in life by dwelling on your depression.
Just note that predicament may confine a body but cannot imprison a mind.You can’t afford to live the rest of your life playing the blame game. You have blamed yourself, society, and others enough for your predicament. Set yourself free. If you keep your yesterday alive, you will kill your tomorrow and destroy your destiny due to what have gone through. keep your wings steady. GOD BLESS US!!!
2006-11-15 09:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, alot of people go through this, and sometimes its hard to answer. I would see if you can't try and get him to see the world in a different way. Like, one creature impacts another (no I'm not talking Lion King circle of life stuff). Try having him read some F. Garcia-Lorca, or Jorge Borges... Lorca might call "depression" "duende" and he saw it as a fundamental artistic tool. Rent the movie "What the Bleep do we know" it'll blow you away. It's quantum physics for dummies... but there is this experiment some Japanese scientist did w/ chi and how energy all around can effect one another. If you can get your boyfriend to see that the energy, duende, depression (all words for the same thing) he feels might actually be something like a spiritual gift that is special and shouldn't be destroyed.
Ok, I'm not trying to be all hippie-ish here, I'm just trying to say, this is not something that can be dealt with purely on medical terms (if it was the med would fix it, right?) So, is there another way to communicate this issue? A spiritual answer? An artistic answer? A quantum physic answer? Something to get him seeing himself in another light where he feels worth it to grace the world with his presence...
2006-11-15 09:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by heavenlypennies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is battling his depression really hard, especially by asking, "why put it off". Maybe he needs to have his medication evaluated. I am being serious. While some medications on the market today have been temporarily good for the patient, some have been proven to have adverse effects, and maybe this is one of the cases. Some of these type of medications have patients thinking suicidal thoughts. So, I would suggest you get him to see his doctor by telling him that you have some concerns about him acting differently. Tell him there are many reasons in living, your relationship and love for each other for starters!!
Best of luck to you, I hoped I helped.
2006-11-15 10:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is what we make of it. Yes, we all die. However, this should give us more reason to live for TODAY! This is the one life that we get, and we should enjoy it.
Attempt to show him the good things that could be in his life. I suffer from depression, so I understand. Some days are worse than others. On a good day, take him out. Take him to places that he loves/likes...show him pictures of good times...tell him that you want to start a family some day, and that you want him to be a part of that.
Instead of feeding into the negativity, force out the good!
2006-11-15 08:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Heck if I know! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do all die, we cannot control whether or not we will die, but we can influence how/when/why/where (etc) we die...and while we cannot control whether or not we will be remembered, we can influence what those memories will be made up of...
The point of life is to live. He is contributing to life by living. Even if he believes that his life is pointless, that he is living allows purpose for others and gives meaning to the whole of life.
2006-11-15 09:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel this way after my car accident. I was 23yrs old, broken and in constant pain. I was mad at God for letting me live. It took several years and my current wife to make me see how great life can be. There is happiness to be found in every day if you try and look. He has your love to live for. He has you to live for. Tell him that you need him in your life. If he doesn't get better at some point you have to decide if this is the way you want to live your life. Unfortunately he can bring you down and that is stressful. He has to have faith that life has it's good and bad times. When you make it through the bad.... the good is even better. I wish you the best.
2006-11-15 09:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ..maybe you can tell him there if there is no point living then why should he be living?
Also, after that tell him that he should be blessed that he has no major illness or living in places where ''is there food next day ?''still a question and tell him that he should just be happy.Do what he can, while he can.Be happy.Enjoy life. All aspects.
2006-11-15 09:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by hip.hop.gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living every day gives you reasons to live. He needs counseling. He seems bored with life.
2006-11-15 08:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋