Help! what can I do? he is blind or something.
I guess...maybe he is childish and he does not respect me..?
2006-11-15 00:44:19 · 20 answers · asked by Oh bella Italia! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep on telling him and maybe he will get the message .Sometimes men need directions and they won't ask for them . Tell him you are not interested in dragging this out and to just stop .
2006-11-15 00:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh boy, ex's can be like that, dear, let me tell you.
I would suggest writing everything in a letter. Tell him that theres nothing here for the two of you anymore, its over. You were glad that you had the time with him, but its not going to happen ever again.
Also, tell him how his current behavior makes you feel. Remind him that if he wants you back, harrassing you is the last way to make it happen. Does he really think he can scare you into loving him?
And most important, tell him you will NOT stand for his behavior. You will not put up with it, period.
If he continues to bother you, tell your parents. If youre younger and he does this at school, go to a dean, a teacher, whatever.
And no, his behavior of bothering you is not respectful. Its not going to win you back, and it makes you like him even less, and let him know that.
You will have to be firm, you might have to be mean, but mostly, you have to be strong.
... but i think you can do it.
2006-11-15 08:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To anyone who has not experienced this type of person it may seem silly and even funny to them. But, to me it is not funny. It is serious. He is a controlling person who thinks he should tell you how you need to feel... right? He's extremely jealous... right? He definitely does not respect you. He likes to appear to others that he does and in his sick twisted way he believes he does. He thinks you are the only one for him and he wants to bully you into remaining in a relationship with him. This is very dangerous! I have an ex that is similar... possibly the same as yours. He started out being Mr. Wonderful. I couldn't have asked for more. Then he showed his real side and I wanted out. He pretty much made that impossible and every family member and friend I had thought I was crazy because he was SO wonderful. I thought there was something wrong with me so I continued to see him. We then got married. I wanted to cry on my wedding day because I knew what kind of person he really was. But, I still thought there must be something wrong with me. Well... after we were married I was pressured to quit my very good job. We moved away from all of my friends and family. He started hitting me (for NO reason). I wasn't allowed to have a car, phone (even home phone), or a key to our home. After all, I wasn't allowed to go anywhere without him so why did I need a key? CRAZY!!!! I couldn't even go to the grocery store without him and I didn't dare even say, "hi" to anyone. Of course... that would be flirting. I made the mistake of talking to the cashier one time. He was an obvious gay man. Very nice man who just wanted to discuss the vegetables I was buying. My husband (now exhusband) was furious! He caused a scene in the store and I got it BIG time when I got home. My point that I'm trying to stress to you is this man you are speaking of is a dangerous person. I wish I had enough selfworth to get an order of protection from the beginning. If I could do it all over again I would have told him very firmly that I did not want to continue a relationship with him from the first moment I saw his jealous and controlling side. (It only gets worse with time.) I know he wouldn't have left me alone no matter what I said. But, at least I would have said it and then gone to get an order of protection. I let it continue and now he is more angry than he would have been in the beginning. I'm still afraid he will try to come and get me and it has been 3 years. Crazy doesn't explain the person you are dealing with. Get away and keep yourself safe. You need to think of yourself and definitely don't start feeling sorry for him or give in. Good luck to you and may God bless you and keep you safe!
2006-11-15 09:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"am i not being clear? it is over and i am getting to the point where i no longer want to be anywhere around you,,i dont mind a friendly chat if we bump into each other but there is no longer anything between us,,keep away from me for now because you are starting to feel like a stalker" what else can you do? you shouldnt have to lie about another man as this makes your word seem not something to be listened to,,if you want to be single you have every right to! if all else fails,,call the police and have him arrested for harassment
2006-11-15 08:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance your self away from him, any spot where he is usually at or were you use to go eliminate that from your life. Maybe even change your number. If that doesn't work have you tried sitting down calm and talking about it and hearing both sides than maybe if you do it civilize( not saying that you didn't ) he will finally get the picture.
2006-11-15 08:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by 2hot4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is childish, and doesn't respect you and your choices.
If he doesn't get the point, and has been harassing you, it might be time for an order of protection.
2006-11-15 08:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep on telling him or just totally ignore him. dont call him, see him, answer his calls or e-mails, nothing like that. then maybe he will actually get the hint. let him see you with someone else and tell him hey i told you it was over. i feel for you because i had this problem before. dont worry he will get it sooner or later!
2006-11-15 09:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could be like all the other women and get a restraining order on him or....you can get in his face in front of his friends and tell him like it is. not only will you get your point across better but his friends will see it to and hopefully help turn him the other direction when he starts talking about you.
2006-11-15 08:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We really need more information but if necessary...get a restraining order. Good Luck!
2006-11-15 08:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lt 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
a kick in the balls and a call to the cops may work
2006-11-15 08:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by NOT IN USE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋