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I want to know if your mother-in-law gets on your last nerve sometime? how do you tell her without starting world war 3?

2006-11-15 00:36:27 · 18 answers · asked by desperate girl 2 in Family & Relationships Family

18 answers

I would have to say that it is quite common to have a mother-in-law that gets on your nerves. It is best to stay on her good side though and keep biting your tongue. Be the better person. It's hard but it's for the best. Good Luck.

2006-11-15 00:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 1 0

My advice is (and this is from personal experience) you NEVER tell her if she gets on your last nerve. You over look it and remember she gave birth to your husband so she was there first so to speak and she feels he should love her first if not also best. I had some battles until I took my own Mom's advice and "killed her with kindness". Make her feel special to you and never compare her to your own Mom. AND try hard not to complain about her to your husband!

If you don't have kids it will all change when you DO (if you do) have any. If there is a daughter as well, count on your kids not being in the same category but remember she can't really help it! Just save yourself some hair pulling and try the ole "kill her with kindness" even though you may just want to sometimes kill her! :o) Good luck!

2006-11-15 00:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 1 0

I know how you feel. And I also have Grandmother in-law that I always butt heads with. But we haven't spoken in about 2 years. Now the mother in-law? I am still waiting for our big blow-out that will give me the okay to stay completely away from her too. And she is moving here! Ughhhhhhhh!!!!!!! But you know what? She gets to speak her mind. Isn't it only fair I get to do the same? I'm not afraid to let her know how I feel. My husband knows how I feel, so if he forces me to associate with her and she pushes me over the edge, then he can't be mad at me too much for what gets said cause he made be around her in the first place. Sorry, I know this probably isn't helping you out. But you can't let her walk all over you. If she thinks she can, she will. Don't give her the chance. Let her know you don't buy the bullsh!t!!!!!!!! If she knows that, then at least you are in the clear on your end. To piss you off she'll have to make it obvious enough for everyone to see what she is doing. And I think she is probably smarter than that. Chances are, you won't have much of anything worry about anymore.

2006-11-15 01:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Snow 6 · 0 0

GIRL! If you only knew! This is so common and it sucks! Do not make the mistake of telling her you do not like her that will start a war! Change it to your benefit and be smart about it, choose your battles wisely! You can approach this by saying "one thing at a time" that "bothers" you and why. Ask her what she would do. When you married him, you said better or worse...meaning you take the good with the bad! So PLEASE (and I know this all to well) becareful. She did bring the one you Love here and the flip side to that is she needs to respect you to. Can you ask him with out being resentful what you should do? He may know her best! But move with caution, you have to deal with this the rest of your life do not jeopardise your marriage for this unless she is completely disrespecting you and you have done all you can do! It's SO SO common.

2006-11-15 00:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 1 0

I can honestly say I am blessed with a wonderful mother-in-law..In fact she always introduces me to everyone as her sister in law... But there have been many times that she and I had a disagreement on something or another... We have an agreement that we can talk to each other openly and receive what's being said with an open heart and mind. I guess my advantage in that we are FRIENDS first... Maybe that is something that most all in law relationships have missed.. Remember if you love him you can love his family....

2006-11-15 00:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by tmjf461 2 · 0 0

well think about that every person is different and I have been married before and my mother-in-law use to get on my nerves and she made my life miserable and I never told her so I dint hurt her feelings ,,, just go for a walk and when you come back you know what to say,,

2006-11-15 00:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0 0

If she gets on your last nerve more than likely thats how it is going to stay.... My mother in law is the same way but she does it on purpose to see how far she can take it....but i just stay away and told my husband he can go visit her himself

2006-11-15 01:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anita 3 · 0 0

I know this sounds funny and this really wont help you at all but I love my mother-in-law. I am closer to her than my own mother.
good luck with that. if your husband loves you more often than not he will take your side.

2006-11-15 00:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by a.gatenby 3 · 0 0

if u got a mother-in-law like that, it already IS world war 3. U just don't know it yet.

tell her, get it off ur chest. at least u will have spoken up 4 ur self.
more than likely, she's gonna get on ur nerves no matter what.

never-the-less: SPEAK UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-11-15 00:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by hott_stuff 1 · 3 1

My mother-in-law is one of the most fabulous people I have ever met. I lucked out.

2006-11-15 00:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by noonee333 4 · 0 0

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