ok my mom in law always makes stupid childish comments that id rather not hear, im pregnant and im very fair in complexion and shes black and out of no where on the phone yesterday she says what if the baby comes out black, which it doesnt matter to me i just want a healthy baby, but if she sits around all day wondering what color the baby is going to be is ignorant and she says it all the time and said it my last pregnancy o by the way the one we have already is white as a ghost which does not matter but how do i tell her im not intrested in those types of commets......she sould be saying were hoping for a healthy baby
2006-11-15 00:26:50 · 9 answers · asked by anthony m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
sorry guys im under my hubbys avatar im a woman
2006-11-15 00:27:41 · update #1
I would just give her a look like "yah,okay" whenever Im around her and shes like that..You could get your husband to say something to her that doesn't make you look bad such as "mom, maybe you could be a lil nicer seeing as though she is pregnant and really needs to work on keeping this baby healthy"....I would try to avoid her at all costs though and be pleasant when shes around...But definately consider talking to your hubby about it...
2006-11-15 00:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by rkonkin226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the key to your answer is in your question - you wonder if she's sitting around all day wondering about this. And you are posting questions about her comments! In other words, the best thing to strive for is to see her comments as ONLY a reflection on her. Attach no meaning and feeling to them.
You can say, "Hmmm, you wonder that?" or some other nonjudgemental, non-informative comment. And move on.
Or, take the compassionate route. Imagine that she is excited about the baby, wants to connect, and doesn't have the skills to do so in a charming way. Talk excitedly about something about the baby that you care about. Or, better yet, when she says something utterly stupid, say, "Oh, that reminds me, I wanted to ask how you handled ______" and ask her opinion on any old thing.
And, fun as it is, recognize that moaning about her is a pretty silly way to spend your time.
In law from hell did manage to help create the man you're making a baby with, no?
2006-11-15 01:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well- I'd tell her considering that you are having a baby with a black man you already know that the baby could be dark and that if you wanted a white baby that you'd have one with a white man.
She's just hoping to make you feel bad. Don't give her the satisfaction!
2006-11-15 00:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be rude right back and say I guess it just depends on who has the stronger gene lines as to what color the baby comes out. Since you already have one child that is fair complected maybe she will get the point to shut the hell up..
2006-11-15 01:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by momof2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Mom in law is prejudice. Did she voice any kind of regret about you marrying her son? If she did that's what she is really commenting on now. It's not the babies color that bothers her its the fact that her black son married a white girl.Tell your husband that she is being very rude towards you and you would appreciate it if would speak to her about it if he doesn't then tell her yourself. If she still doesn't stop tell her to go to ****.
2006-11-15 00:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by gamble010676 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say That is doesnt matter to you what color the baby is as long as its healthy. That you just want to focus on the babies health and nothing more.
2006-11-15 00:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother in law of a woman and the father in law of a man are commonly jealous. You have to realize that and it could be she knows her question irritates you. Don't mind her and answer politely that you don't care about his color and all you care about is..... You took her son away but what is really comforting is the fact that your husband is going back home with you. I never mind my father in law's obvious jealousy I remain polite and take my wife home with a big smile on my face.
2006-11-15 01:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her that your first child is fair skinned like you. And it really shouldnt matter what color her grandchild is, that as long as he or she is healthy and loved, you could care less if "it" is the color of a rainbow. Or better yet, have your hubby deal with her... thats how we handle our family, he deals with his, I deal with mine.. I think I got the poo end of the stick though...lol Good luck and Congrats.
2006-11-15 00:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by kutskova29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why it matters what color it is.
2006-11-15 00:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋