After moving away for 4 years, I recently moved back close to my hometown. While I was away, I gained 70 pounds. When we (my fiancee and I) lived in the other town (1 1/2 hours away from my home town) I was completely confident, now, since moving back I can't regain that because I'm around people now that I was around before gaining the weight. Help me please, I'm trying to eat right and exercise but I never find the time...
2006-11-15 00:21:37 · 8 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes, I'm still with my fiancee.
2006-11-15 00:30:04 · update #1
Don't be too hard on yourself, going back home is bound to bring back memories even at a subconscious level. Try to remain positive and drink lots of water, take a brisk walk for 1/2 an hour at least three times a week (but remember if you haven't exercised for a while you will need to build up to it start with whats comfortable then build up from there) eating right helps but without water and exercise it is a lot harder...good luck!
2006-11-15 00:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to lose weight to become confident again. However, exercise will really make you feel better about yourself. As a person who's been through the same thing--the only way I can get myself to work out regularly is to do high intensity exercise that releases endorphins (like intense elliptical, jogging, rowing machine etc. they burn lots of calories, make you sweat and give a great addictive high afterwards). Exercise is good for the body and soul.
Apart from working on your body, which is a sideways way of improving confidence, you should focus on projects that highlight your talent and abilities. Achieving persistent small goals, whether they be weight loss goals, or creating artwork, or are career goals, are great ways to improve confidence.
If you're a powerful and talented person, who cares what people think when they "see" you? In my experience, we tend to read a lot more into that than is actually relevant. People change a lot in 4 years and I don't think hometown folks take that too seriously unless you were head cheerleader (or even if you were!).
2006-11-15 09:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by urbangenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant get confidence back just by snapping your fingers. You first need to feel comfortable with yourself and surroundings. Remember this confidence is mental and not physical. You may not like the way you look but that is the mental aspect of it. I hope this helps you. If you need anything else you can email me at dan.rutledge@yahoo.com.
Are you still with your fiance? If not that could be a reason too.
2006-11-15 08:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by D R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bless you. You are having all this problem that is inside of you.
Outside of you, nothing has really changed except the scenery.
You need to stop worrying about what others think, except for one person, and that is you. Your fiancee obviously loves you for the YOU that is truly you.
That is all that matters, and all that "pays the bills".
Her are my philosophies at age 60:
"So, either you like me, or you don't, but, my life is too full of new surprises and delights to spend any time on what you think"
What my family does for entertainment, for knowledge, for joy, in life, is what is inside our relationship, and is not subject to outside approval, unless someone is being injured.
So, the majority of gossips are too sick to see that they are the perverts and the sickos. Ignore them, for to react to them is to be sucked down into their underworld gutter.
Live for yourself, and for those whom you love. Don't waste time trying to achieve someone else's goals in life. Set your own.
2006-11-15 08:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is not available to us we should make it available to us.Morning times are in our disposal.Try to get up one hour early and do some exercises.I feel that people DOT care about others body and weight for along time.they have their own things in their mind,so do't worry about others do for ur health and happiness . u get both by exercise only
2006-11-15 08:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by red rose 5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the same person. There is more of you to love. Get your hair styled, buy a new outfit, and be yourself.
2006-11-15 08:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how much you weigh but you need to surround your self with the people who love you for who you are not what you are.
2006-11-15 08:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kayla B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply walk
2006-11-15 08:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋