I am going on several dates at a time and like some of them, do you lot think it is ok for me to keep dating several girls until I decide which one I really like and want to be with ?
2006-11-15 00:13:59 · 36 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I intend to let the others go when I have found the right one.
And no none of them know about the others. I dont see that as a problem as I am not cheating on anyone. As I am not anyones b/f yet !
2006-11-15 00:21:32 · update #1
Go for it.....ONE LIFE LIVE IT.
2006-11-15 00:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it. If you follow the traditional one date at a time rule, you'll end up getting bitter and jaded toward women. Life's too short to carry an attitude.
here are some things to consider about dating several women:
A) it's expensive.
B) If you decide to, make sure to be respectful and honest about your intentions. Don't play games, be honest up front that you are not looking for anything serious. If you're honest and you don't play games, you can date as many women as you want.
C) If you are going to have sex with more than one woman at a time, use protection.
Good luck, and have fun.
Cheers.
2006-11-15 00:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by dgrhm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it's okay to date more than one person at a time until you are exclusively committed. This is the more mature approach. The idea of dating is to hang out and get a sense for whether or not they are a good match for you. Save the exclusivity for serious relationships. Life is about getting to know as many people as you can. Just be sure to let them know of your intentions and do not lead people on. I wouldn't recommend sleeping with anyone until you are actually committed, but a grope or two and some snoochie boochies as such are allowed.
2006-11-15 00:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by shagg_woo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my job as a forensic archaeologist I often date men, women and objects at the same time. I am careful to keep all samples separate from each other to avoid cross-contamination and false results. If several women were recovered from the same site I would probably only date one to save on lab report costs.
2006-11-15 00:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by PAUL M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutey!!
That's what people "used" to do to find the right one.
These days dating is supposed to mean jumping in the sack and serious committment after the first date! It's nuts.
Date date date date! Have fun. JUST
Make sure that these women KNOW that you're dating multiple ladies.
And understand and respect the fact that they are completely entitled to date other men...
Its only fair.
2006-11-15 00:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Shakira 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u r about to open a 'pandora's box.' just becaus u don't consider ur self anyone's b/f doesn't mean anything if 1 or more of these girls think they r the only 1 ur dating.
and when they find out about each other, WATCH OUT.
better 2 b upfront so everyone is on the same page.
2006-11-15 00:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by hott_stuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as everyone knows where they stand and are happy with it then yes. If you're lying to them all then no!
Also remember they're perfectly entitled to date other men too - if you have a problem with that then you shouldn't be in that game!
Incidentally I would say that, if they don't know, and you are being intimate with them, then you ARE cheating on them. Which makes you a bit of a sheister really!
2006-11-15 00:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow! interesting... I have an online friend whom i like and he likes me too that was last year when he asked me if do i want to be the mother of his children, i was flattered and thanked him for asking me but that was too early for me & besides i haven`t meet him yet & of ocurse i do not know this guy as far as i am concerned but he is my friend... He often tells me how he likes me & i told him too, prior to this i already knew he`s been dating so many women & for me its like i am an option for him... why does he told me that he wants me to be the mother of his children & date many women? We are supposed to meet one summer but he postponed his plans, & instead he visited some online friends in another part of the world... we still have communication though & once in a while still sending me warm wishes & showing how much he is interested in me. I asked him if does he falls in love now meeting his online dates & he answered " no i am waiting to meet my future wife to love & to spend a life time with & i love you as a friend till i met you please don`t get jealous i am nobody`s bf yet" I like him as a friend & there were times i thought i am falling for him but i am not dreaming, i want reality and i dont want to be an option... I told him you can find great women, a lot better than me but i cannot wait for you... i might meet you somewhere along the way but i dont Know when... Some women he dates never knows they were just the choices for him but i am lucky enough he told me this and it hurts but i accept it after all he is my friend, i just felt sorry for the women who think they have a sparks together & even looking for more into this dating thingy with him. Today he called telling me all his date details & after hanging the phone telling me how much he longs to see me & that he love`s me. But too late, i am happy now with the person i love, yes i maybe like him but i don`t want to be just an option or just among the choices.
So the answer to your question is as long as you are happy & comfortable doing it there is nothing wrong... Sometimes what you are really looking for is just right infront of you. Don`t waste your time. Good luck!
2006-11-15 01:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by geieyoung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a scenario for you....what happens if the girl you pick says to you ....."i'm sorry - I was dating a number of lads at the same time and I like someone else more".
you would be gutted.
make your choice and let the other down gently.
2006-11-15 00:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, it would rather p**s me off, - I think you have to be open about it too (ie tell them!). I tend to find that you know within the first 15 minutes or so whether someone is your 'type' or not, so I think that you are probably leading the women on needlessly, and probably have low self esteem which is 'bolstered' by having women 'hanging on' when you aren't really interested in them...
2006-11-15 00:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls get upset when it is found out that you are seeing other es. It's just the way they are. What you are doing is fine as long as you keep there names right when your with them.
2006-11-15 00:33:56 · answer #11 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋