Hi my name is Trevor and I am 24 years old. Before I ask my question I just want to say I have had a lot of horrible reply's to some of the questions I have been asking can you please stop doing this. Any way back to my question.
The guys I work with have found out that I am a virgin. And have already keep pestering me in going out and getting laid. How can I stop them from pestering me because I don't agree with one night stands and I would like to find a girlfriend when I am ready. I have tried telling them no and they just don't listen. Also has a similar experience happened to you. The only reason I am asking is because I want to know if I am worrying over nothing.
2006-11-14 23:50:56 · 47 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am guessing that your not socially friends with these wallys.? I have a woman at work who I loath....she drives me mad....she's very opinionated and everything she says is always right ...dont try telling her she's wrong.
But as my b'friend pointed out to me, you go to work to earn money - not make friends - you dont need to listen to their advice or what they say - just get in there - do your job and get the heck back out again.
As for being a virgin...bloody good on you - thats what I say. Your sticking to your beliefs and people should respect you for that.
Unfortunately we live in a world of narrow minded people - who have nothing better to do with their time but judge other people.
DONT DIP YOUR WICK TILL YOUR READY.
good luck
xx
2006-11-15 00:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Geez, this sounds like that movie "The 40 Year Old Virgin" all over again.
Trevor, you should feel proud that you're a virgin. You are showing maturity when you wish to hold back until you've found the girl to first share this experience with. And it *will* be an experience...It's not like the concept of sex is totally alien to you, so if the subject comes up again just tell your fellows at work to mind their own business and you'll go for it when you're ready. Don't let them taunt you. Your feelings are right and they're being ignorant about them. Being a guy yourself, the mentality is often that guys think more about that issue and getting on with it than women...
Can't say a similar experience has happened to me...I'm 16 with an online boyfriend and we communicate very, very well. My friends aren't the type to go into sexual relations right away so they haven't pressured me at all. :D
2006-11-14 23:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by A M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I commend that. As far as the men you work with,...don't let them corrupt you into believing the way they do. The best thing I can tell you is for you to put your foot down with them. Tell them that you aren't wanting a one night stand with someone. That you don't want to risk diseases. And that you would appreciate it if they would drop the subject. As it is only interfering with your job and not going to change your mind. Ask them if they would want someone to keep harrassing them if the shoe was on the other foot. Tell them that when you find the right one they will know it because you will gladly let them know.
Don't feel pressured by these guys. You do what is in your heart. Best of luck to you!!!
2006-11-14 23:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Dana A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry, we have all been in your situation, we are all virgins at some point! Some people just wait longer as they havent found someone they want to be with, theres nothing wrong with that. The emphasis shouldnt be on getting laid its about mutual attraction and getting on really well. Then it just comes naturally anyway. The last thing you need is pressure from other people as it is just patronising for you. They should butt out, i wouldnt tell them anything even if you did find someone.
2006-11-15 00:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by herbal ashtray 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are brave for not giving in and I think it is rare to here that someone of your age is still a virgin and waiting for the right person
However I think if you put all your hope in one person you will be disappointed
I am not saying you should go out and get laid but don't wait for the perfect person, they don't exist. Well very few people get it right with their first Love lets say
2006-11-15 02:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you're doing is very admirable. Most guys will go against what you believe in and go for a one night stand just to say they've gotten laid. If they don't listen, then they don't listen. They must not be as mature as you, nor do they have morals like you. But the important thing is that you're believing in what you're doing and that's all that matters. It's people like you who are keeping the relationship world clean and it's people like you who should be respected for what you're doing. You're not worrying over nothing. They shouldn't be worrying about your personal life.
2006-11-14 23:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by mysticaura29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Sex is intimate and you should expect to share it with someone special. Feel relieved that you aren't having to worry about getting someone you don't love pregnant, having your weiner drop off from disease, get shot by some angry husband/bf!
Now to stop them.... just say this "Hey man, I dig girls, but I just want to wait and be with someone I really like, I don't want to be some baby's daddy or have to go to the doc with crabs!" And trust me they will shut up because if they are sleeping around that much, they have been to the doc or had a baby scare, or probably have baby's everywhere anyway!
Good luck
2006-11-14 23:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi trevor!!
This is your choice and i myself was a virgin until 18 not as old as you but i fell inlove and im still with the same guy 9 years on. Its unfortunate that we live in a world that has small minded people out there. Let them carry on they will get bored and move on. You are your own person who makes their own decissions so why bother what others think???
Hope you find the right girl who will make you happy xx
2006-11-14 23:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by kate 0504 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are worrying over nothing like you said, why is what they say a big deal, if you want to wait then wait, let what they say roll off your shoulder, that way they will get sick of going on about it, because they will know u don't care, I don't get why being a virgin is such a big deal, i think it's cool u are waiting till you find the right one, Good luck!
2006-11-15 00:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We also have a friend like you, who is 34 but I would never persist that he should find a girlfriend. Some people can be A-sexual not getting any horny feelings at all.
Do what you want, when you want, don't feel ashamed, be proud, there are far too many sl uts in the world already.
2006-11-14 23:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋