Everything i try never seems to be good enough for her i dont want to lose her I have never been this happy before. The fact iv neva been in a serious relationship before may have something to do with why i cant do it please help thank you
2006-11-14 23:46:57 · 14 answers · asked by Neil L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are not able to make her feel anything. i think you'd better spend your time talking about your feelings. why do you think this person is your only salvation. this is your first serious relationship you've got so much to learn and it won't be your last. good for you for trying but destroying yourself isn't loving. you sound like me and i know how mixed up it can get. you have to be ok on your own to be with someone else. a relationship is only one part of a total life so focus on the other areas..hobbies, friends, family, work, spirituality, alone time are also important. i'm getting more balance and my relationship is getting better so i guarantee it will work. I read 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' by susan Jeffers and 'Awaken the giant within' by anthony robbins it helped. Relax hon..if' it's love you can't do anything wrong x M
2006-11-15 00:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you try too hard and they notice it, they may feel like they're too much for your time. If you try less, they may think you're losing interest.... it's really hard to find that perfect balance. The fact that you've never had a serious relationship has a LOT to do with it. Don't feel as though you need to make everything perfect, remember that a relationship consists of both you and her, so she should do some of the share as well. If you want to talk to her about it, take her out to dinner or a park or something (weather permitting), and just let her know you want to talk about something important, and then bring it up.
2006-11-15 00:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by mysticaura29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things spring to my mind:
1) Either you're trying to hard and putting her off, in which case tone it down a bit and just concentrate on being yourself rather than focussing completely on her.
2) She could be a perfectionist and everything you do isn't good enough for her. I was in a relationship with a guy like that and believe me it isn't pretty. I ended up feeling like I was trying to fill a bottomless pit. People like that are terribly insecure and the problem is with them, not you. I had to leave my partner as he was dragging me down and making me feel I could never do anything right. You sound like you're going the same way.
My general advice would be to back off, concentrate on just being yourself and communicate with your partner about what she wants. Say you want to meet her needs, but not at the expense of your own happiness. It needs to be give and take, and she should be giving you as much as you give her.
2006-11-15 00:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you are trying too hard and making her feel trapped. Make her laugh and be kind, not just to her, show you have a compassionate side. Is she happy? If the relationship is the right one it will work but if not it may be time to move on and find a relationship where you can BOTH be happy. Good luck.
2006-11-14 23:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know how you feel about her?
Take time and action not gifts.. For me anyone can go buy a present (don't get me wrong they are nice too)
But to spend good quality time listening and talking to her is important.. get a favorite old movie, a fuzzy blanket and cuddle up on the sofa...
...try a foot massage with scented oils or lotions.. all these thing SHOW how much you care.
2006-11-14 23:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by truthwalker7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should tell her that this is your first serious relationship.
Tell her you have never been this happy before & that it is because of her that you are this happy. That way she will feel happy inside (& loved) knowing that it's she who is source of your happiness.
2006-11-14 23:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by J.T.T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chiil out. make her work for your affection, and she will appreciate you more. never bend over backwards all the time, or she will get bored. calm down and let her try to impress YOU
2006-11-15 01:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by jimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a talk with her and tell her that you care for her and ask her to tell you how she feels.
2006-11-14 23:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spoil her a bit!!! by flowers,box of chocks, go out for a meal,
do all you can to show her that you do care for her... if you don't want to lose her.. Good luck Mate!!
2006-11-15 00:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋