2006-11-14 23:45:07 · 10 answers · asked by fastandfurious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the child is small so she wont understand.
try to talk to the mother n explain to her that she must correct her daughter in a better way.
or else as she becomes a teen-ager she will begin to hate her mom.
2006-11-14 23:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother must learn to understand the child..look back and try to find out what must have happened in the past to create the unique that you two have at the moment.
I am the second daughter of a mother of four. I was the most troublesome when I was young and there was a stage where I even thought my mom loved me the least out of my sisters but today (I am 24 and I am married with no kids of mine as yet) we are best friends. When I was young, my mom kinda failed to understand my unique personality and that she had to come up with a unique reward system for my good behavior and unique punishment where necessary. Just how unique was I from my sisters, to discipline me, she couldn't be herself, I prefered being shown my mistake and how it could affect my future. I wanted to be treated like an adult...I am highly sensitive so all this had to be done in a gentle tone. I kinda mentally matured way before my peers and it made me feel important and smart when finally my mother treated me like an adult.
Look into other circumstances that might be in your environment and affecting your relationship..are there other siblings? How are they treating the 9yr old? is there a man involved (father, step father etc.) how free is the daughter around them? I am saying this because one other thing that ended up helping our relationship was to have my mother to myself..not that I am selfish but even thought you might have other kids you need treat them all as individuals and you need to motivate them differently to bring out the best in them.
Provide some parameters for the environment around the mother in child and I might be able to offer better light.
Good luck.
2006-11-15 08:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for mothers and daughters to fight. It's okay as long as they make up. Later in life the daughter will understand why the mother made rules. Probably when she grows up and has a family of her own.
2006-11-15 07:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother should not fight with her 9 yr old. She obviously needs some parenting skills quickly. This child has obviously learned that she needs to fight to get things. That is the method of commnication she has learned, it is not her fault. She has learned it from somewhere.
2006-11-15 07:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by heidifreckles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they fist fighting.? If yes, then you should step in. If they are yelling at each other in public then maybe you could just walk over and start a conversation with them to get them away from the yelling.
2006-11-15 08:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the mother is the adult, so she should shut the daughter down when she starts to argue. The mom should be in charge of de-escalating the situation.
2006-11-15 07:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens with mother and daughter it usually resolves it self
2006-11-15 07:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by peter r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step in and help...
2006-11-15 07:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by TL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry.. just let them be.
2006-11-15 08:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave them...
2006-11-15 07:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋