how do u stop a mother and 9yr old daughter from fighting?

Answer 1

I wish I knew...my wife and 9 year old are going at it all the time. My advice as a father...go hide in the basement....

I have had to step in and bark at the two of them to go away from each other and cool off.

Answer 2

Why are they fighting? My daughter just turned 10 and has already been going through puberty for years. She is moody and fights with me all the time and gives me an attitude. I just give her space sometimes and I tell her I love her and she can always come to me with anything she wants to talk about. We have had a lot of hard times together and I think that as long as I am there for her she will come around eventually. I guess to a point it is normal. I guess if it is out of control then that is a different story. You could always take away privelages from her and make her earn them by respecting her mother. This usually works for us.

Answer 3

The mother should control herself. The son should do anything the mother says them to do so that the mother doesn't get anymore angry than she already is. Take a break from each other, go in your rooms, drink some hot chocolate - hot chocolate sooths you. In a couple of minutes one of you guys go down into the others room and apologize deeply. That should stop your guys from fighting.

Answer 4

Normally, I back my wife but in some instances she was being as childish as the kids so here is what I did: It irritated both of them but I made them both write out their points of view after seperating them. Once they had a chance to cool down and re-read what they were fighting about both realized they were being silly. It took a lot of doing the first couple times and I had to snarl a bit. After that, just the threat of making them both sit down and write it out solved the problem.

Answer 5

You probably don't. Most Mom's and girls start to have many disagreements about this age when the girl starts to want to do things she's not quite ready for and Mom objects. However if they argue a lot it might help to sit them down and talk about it, as they may not realize that thier constant bickering is bothering you.

Answer 6

Wait some years for the daughter to grow and she will stop behave like a child.
About mother? She didn't stop behave like a child until now......it is too late to hope that she will change....:)

Answer 7

God I wish I knew...I have three girls and there are times when it seems like all we do is fight...hormone hell is an understatement. We all love one another and we support one another fiercely...but we can get on one another nerves so fast it isn't funny. Ahhh the joys of teenage-hood. I can't wait til we are through them...

Answer 8

If the mom has been engaging the child at the child's level -- which your question seems to indicate -- it is very hard to back things off from that.

Answer 9

i was going thru kinda the same thing .my 9 year old son was not listning and starting fights with me everyday.. i was at my wits end . i finally said hey/ i;m the boss here and i.m the grown one here.. when he started throwing things and doin wrong things i said thats it.... no video games and do it again and your grounded... now when he tries to get me mad /i ignore him ,,igo cook or bake a cake or do something.... sinse he knows i no longer argue with him back and forth 'he stoped... it;s been so peaceful since i held my ground... good-luck you'll need it...

Answer 10

Im in the same boat as you, its a natural thing, i guess! If it gets too loud, i will break it up, but dont take sides! You will lose either way!