Please help, I'm 16 and I have been secretly seeing my mums ex who is 46.
We went out for a drink just to catch up and talk about a job and we ended up having sex. We have since met up twice and I have stayed over at his house.
He has daughters older than me which is a problem as we never got on.
He didn't mean to sleep with me and I didn't mean to fall for him but it just happened.
It isn't illegal in this country as I am at the age of consent. I know you are probably all thinking he is a pervert and I am just some niave kid but please believe me it isn't like that.
Me and my mum have never been very close she walked out on me when I was 4, and no this is not revenge on her my point is she has never considered me so i dont see why i should cnsider her.
I'm in love with the guy, I would do anything for him, and I don't know what to do as I only see him about once a week. Please help.
2006-11-14 23:36:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 16 and not in love with this pervert. No matter what you think and no matter how much you don't want to hear it. He's taking advantage of you, it may not be illegal, but it doesn't make it right. You will be so much happier with someone your own age. Seek counseling.
2006-11-14 23:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm worried. Because this guy is 46 and should have known better. Gosh you're just sixteen and he had sex with you even if it was consensual, somehow I just expected better from someone of that age. Well you put yourself in the situation and you have to make do with what he hands you. Do you think he's in love with you? Has he ever said it out loud. Somehow I think you're way in over your head and this guy is taking advantage of you. I mean seriously is he willing to make a commitment to you? Have you guys talked about it? Frankly I would have a serious conversation with him and find out what his intentions are. You're entitled to know. Besides thats the only way you'll know what kind of decisions you have to make. Sorry if I sound harsh but I'm just telling you like it is.
2006-11-14 23:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, somehow it is revenge towards your mom, even if you dont think that way, you said it yourself: "she didn't soncider me so I don't see why I should concider her." Eventhough you have been with him only three times, do you really think you will do anything for him and that you love him? Think about what you are doing to your moral standards...... I say leave the man and don't tell anyone, find yourself a guy your own age, I promise you would have a lot less problems....
2006-11-14 23:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Girly-Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there really is no point in telling you anything,,you are at that age where you just cannot see but believe me,,you are an old mans fantasy,,you are all soft,smooth and lets face it,,perky and he is low enough to take what is on offer,,and believe me,,and probably all the rest,,he is low! you may do anything for him but will he you,,will he not hide you from friends and family?,,will he share secrets between couples? will he take you out in public while holding your hand and introduce you as his girlfriend? will he respect your opinion on important issues in fact will he even ask your opinion on important issues? you are TOO young for an older man and that may sound silly but you have no life experience under your belt to share,you have not lived and one who has not lived has nothing to offer one who has,,sorry,,be very wary because he has a choice and a man who will date his ex,s daughter at 16 will probably be capable of anything..do not be used!!!
2006-11-14 23:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess love has no boundaries. As u said at an age of consent & its not illegal. Tell him how u feel &see how that goes. Though: keep in mind u have your whole life ahead of u, are u sure he is the man u are to be with??
2006-11-14 23:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bad Bad Bad Girl! Crazy! You are making the biggest mistake of your life that I can promise you! And his not very well, what kind of man is he? And what kind of girl are you? His old enough to be your father! Don’t worry about your mom, worry about yourself... You are just on the wrong path and I hope somebody report him to the police! ! ! ! I really do! Get out of this f-up relationship, his just using you; you’re a young girl... no flabby stomach, no hanging boobs, your young and his playing you. You’re his sex toy! Wake up! Good luck if you choose to stay on this path, you’ll need it!
2006-11-14 23:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by confussie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see you mentioned you got not no problems with him other than you just confused on why you have sex and fell for him, plus his daughters don't go along with you.
I see no further problems (unless you're a guy), and you might benefit a lot from him since he is way older.
The only big problems I see is his daughters, you got to make sure they and you are comfortable with you having relationship with their father.
2006-11-15 00:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Run don't walk. Get out of this relationship. No good can come of it. I'm not going to go in to details. You sound very intelligence so I'm sure you fully realize the danger, Good Luck!!!!!!1
2006-11-14 23:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by pikeruss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the old pervert sweetie.
2006-11-14 23:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by wombat2u2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well then i think its okay to go with the guy then.. you dont have anything to be confused, i think what you do is not wrong, and i think your mom mustn't say no even if she found out about your relationship between you and her ex. BUT, i think you must re-think about this carefully. You are young, so dont force things but think about it carefully, since this is an important matter ^^
2006-11-14 23:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by d4rk_w4t3r 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋