how can i get my guy to be more romantic?

Question

i love my guy and he loves me but i seem to be the only one who does or says anything romantic how can i get him to pay a bit more attention and suprise me once in a while?

Answer 1

TRY TALKING TO HIM...TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL....

Answer 2

Minxy, have you tried thinking about why he doesn't seem to be acting romantic, rather than how to make him romantic...? You need to be accessing his mind and discovering the reasons behind his unromantic side. Is he embarrassed to act romantic...or does he find it hard to romantically communicate with you because he doesn't believe that you will be interested? Have you ever indicated that you are bored of him or maybe losing interest in him? If so he may be scared of refusal or what you may be thinking of him...My better advice to you is the only advice that will help you in this sort of situation, and that is to talk to your man. You don't know what he thinks, and that is the route of the problem. Speak with him. Tell him how you feel and what you would like him to do or say ... but don't attack...it isn't about what you want...but what he wants or needs to be able to act the way you want.

Answer 3

Difficult - it's either in his nature or not. Just because he doesn't do or say the things that you view as romantic doesn't mean he doesn't have all the right feelings.

However.......
It might be worth asking him if there's anything you can do that will make it easier for him to show his feelings. It may be that you always get there first which might make him feel his words or actions will only be seen as a reaction to yours and therefore less genuine.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Good Luck!!

Same with my guy. Hes gorgeous and an absolute honey. But romance?! Forget it. I've tried hints, asking for it, being romantic to him, pointing it out (strongly) when his mates are romantic with their girlfreinds, and the whole reward thing: ) Its just not in his nature.

But I've come to realise that it doesnt matter. He is so kind and good to me in other ways. So I dont get flowers or candle lit dinners, so what? He hugs me first thing every morning and every time we say hello. Then when he does do something romantic its extra special: )

Answer 5

I found a survery on a website, i think it was marraigebuilder.com, it had love bank stuff. You each fill it out and it share it. It talks about things you like and how your lover can do more of each. OR.. maybe in another conversation about things he likes, tell him how much he'd be rewarded for being more romantic, give him ideas, and make sure you reward him when he does! Make the payoff worth it.

Answer 6

Put some reminders in his phone. Us guys just dont do the romantic thing it's all an act for you girls. Just tell us that you want a supprise now and again and we will try to oblige if we remember.

Answer 7

talk to him and tell him u feel is the only option. But i would advise not to because thats obviously just the way he is im sure he shows his love to u in different ways, romance does not prove love. If u start trying to change him then y are u with him in the first place. u love someone for who they are the good and the bad

Answer 8

just be yourself and allow him to be himself. he probably is romantic in his own way but you are not noticing it. try to see the things he does or says as romantic and see if you feel more loving too. appreciate what he does and be really happy when he is romantic so he'll want to do it more. From experience you are better off with unromantic fidelity and honesty than over smoochie manipulators...is he from lancashire?

Answer 9

This is like nurturing a child.............show him how it should be done and reveal the benefits for acting proactively. Describe how special it makes you feel when he does even the littlest of things for you which should hopefully prompt him to make more of an effort.

Instigate an event, make it special and try to highlight that if you give then you are much more likely to receive (if you know what I mean?!!).

Good luck.

Answer 10

When you say you love him look into his eyes and say it like you mean it. Then say, "you know what I want?" and of course he will say "what?" and you can say " I want you to make me dinner (or take me out to dinner), light candles, buy me flowers, and get some wine for us to drink. And I want you to make love to me. And then I want you to tell me why you love me, and what you love about me while we are doing it, or maybe after. I want a romantic night just the two of us." and you dont have to say that exactly, just whatever you need to say, whatever you want. But dont whine when you ask and DONT say "i dont feel like you love me, or I need you to show me, or why arent you romantic?" just say what you want playfully but make sure he gets the point. My boyfriend doesnt have this problem he gives me foot massages and back massages, he will change the pace of our lovemaking to feel more connected with me, and look into my eyes and tells me i mean the world to him. He is wonderful what anyone could want, but if he wasnt. I know if I said these things he would do that for me. and im sure your man will too.

Answer 11

I hope you will succeed to make him more romantic ...

If it is in his nature to be colder and quiet you can "move " mountains and you won't succeed ... Most of people don't change their behaviour so easily ... Even they do , it will be fos a short period of time and after they will become the same ...