This happened on more than one occassion. I meet a girl and we exchange numbers. I call we chat a bit and ask if you want to have dinner,coffee,etc.. You say no because of this or that,which is fine. I call the following week and the same thing happens. So I take the hint and never bother ya again...Then 2 weeks later You call me and say "why are you such a stranger" "why have`nt you called". At this point I`m disgusted and make up a lame excuse or say that I`m seeing someone. Why did you bother to call
2006-11-14 23:07:11 · 15 answers · asked by bigpumpdaddy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This just happened with the guy I am now dating. People can honestly be busy. As that was true in my case. I think he sent me a message in Aug and I was very busy. He gave me his number I didn't call. He left me messages on yahoo a lot .Then the next week we talked on line and on phone. He seemed cool but once again life took me away. It had been a few weeks I was home for a few days when I explained I was still very busy. I would be less busy end of Sept. Well this was not the case. Oct came and he sent me a message saying something to affect that he was getting tired of my putting him off, should he just move on? I told him I was sorry and not to throw in towel on me yet. I was wanting to meet him. Yet again I had to put him off. I'm so lucky this guy was patient and didn't give up on me. Well we finally connected meet around middle of Oct . Thank god he didn't give up. We both would have lost out. He is just fantastic.
I guess its up to how strong your feelings are for the person. If you can or want to be patient or understanding? . So my answer is go with your heart it will tell you what to do?
2006-11-15 00:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by mcgoos2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, I have done that. I can't answer for all the other women in the world, but I can say why I've done it. I've met men whom I've had an instant attraction to and I give them my number. They call, and I make an excuses because the "attraction" isn't there when we aren't face to face. Then when they don't call back, I wonder why and I call. And of course sometimes, they do the same thing to me. I deserved it. However, I have learned that when I feel an attraction for a man to back off and see if that attraction still holds true when we are not physically together. My current boyfriend and I talked on the phone for over a month before we ever met. The attraction was there on the phone, but I realized it might not be there when we met. Thank goodness it was, and still is over 3 months after meeting.
2006-11-15 07:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this person have an extremely busy life. Work, childern, college sure can get in the way of dateing. Besides being truely busy I don't know why some people do this. Perhaps they are an extreme introvert and can only handle being around people for so long. They like to be around people, just not as much as others.
All I know, busy or not it is up to you if you want to pursue that type of personality or not.
Good luck
2006-11-15 07:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself have never done that before. When a guy called me when I was single if I couldn't go out on the day he suggested then I'd tell him when I was available. You're just coming across the wrong type of girl is all. Hope you find someone better than that. Best of luck and don't give up, she's out there somewhere!
2006-11-15 07:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't say I have ever been like that. If I am interested I will say and if I'm not I would say that too. Girls just somethings like to be chased I guess?
2006-11-15 07:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called playing hard to get,,our mothers told us to do this cuz it would make guys more interested and not easy lays
but this is a new generation of dateing,,and its still a game
games are lame
2006-11-15 07:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! They send mixed signals all the time don't they? You do the right thing by blowing them off.
2006-11-15 07:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by barkel76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy ??? Dinner or coffee ??? Women don't want that.
Be a man....come straight out with it and offer them your salami !!!!
2006-11-15 07:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by wombat2u2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls like to be chased around.
2006-11-15 07:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL.......cause she thought she'll find a better link and she didn't.maybe she wanted you to do the running up...or shes just a tease..
2006-11-15 07:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by lady c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋