we broke up a month ago, because i have really bad anger problems and drinking shows it, ive gotten voilent before and ive hit him but i love him and i miss him, i want him to know ive sorted myself out and id do anything for him i want to know how i can show him, i cant explain how i feel he makes everyhting right i want to give him the world all i have to do is look at him or even think of him and i smile i want him to know how much im hurting now hes gone and i want him to know i love him
2006-11-14 23:01:22 · 13 answers · asked by purple pixie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think you can sort yourself out in a month. you should never hit anyone and he may be happier now so be prepared for that but just tell him what you've put here and see what he says.
2006-11-14 23:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by charl203 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say u have sorted yourself but think about it have u really done that in the space of a month?? he needs to see that you have changed and i think first of all u need to concentrate on yourself because obviously something has made you the way u are so u need to deal with and get over that first. Once youve sorted yourself out and are content then give him a call. Good luck. If he still loves then hes doing this for your own good and will be waiting for you.
2006-11-15 00:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by browneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay on an anger management course until you can control yourself. That's also a sign of your commitment to him and to your relationship.
Dont stop your anger management course even if he says no. You need this. It'll take time for him to trust you, he may not respond for a while. Dont just do this for your relationship, keep it up for your own sake. Stop only when you have gone through many anger-provoking situations without blowing up.
Stop drinking - you dont need alcohol to loosen you up. You're probably repressing your feelings which is why you keep blowing up every now and then like a pressure valve. Learn how to express yourself and feel comfortable with people without the help of alcohol. If you like yourself it shouldnt be hard, if you dont, then learn how to like yourself. Doing bad things only makes you feel worse about yourself, catch 22. Doing good things and not letting yourself down makes you feel better. We are all our own harshest judge and there's no hiding from ourselves.
2006-11-14 23:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by cognoscible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/FT7kf
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-27 18:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree - enrol yourself in an anger management course and show him that you want him back with actions, rather than just with empty words. Trust me, there is no better way to show someone how much they mean to you by admitting that something is your fault and doing something constructive to try and stop it.
Alcohol does a lot of crazy things to a lot of people - if he agrees to see you in a bar then only have one drink and then move onto soft drinks.
Good luck babe x
2006-11-14 23:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you and what you are going through.All i can suggest (old fashioned i know) put it all in a letter,everything you are feeling.......But first ask yourself :- Have you had contact with your ex since you split? Why did you get angry with him? How long were you together? Do you think he had the same deep feelings for you? I wish you well for the future and hope you can sort out your life . xx
2006-11-14 23:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by wickedsoul132 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's are usually ex's for a reason. Sometimes you just can't go back and to try just means more pain and hurt. But to satisfy your own mind tell him how you feel.....tell him you will seek help. If he says yes ...work togehter. If he says no....still seek that help but do it for yourself.....then prevent it from repeating in a new relationship.
2006-11-15 00:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him & arrange to meet up, say you really need to talk to him, then when you get him alone explain you know you were in the wrong and you are willing to change, see how he reacts and hopefully he will give you another chance to prove yourself, don't muck it up this time girl and go easy on the booze. good luck!
2006-11-14 23:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by BLONDESHELL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you in some anger management class or support group? If so, ask him to come along so he can see that you are getting help.
2006-11-14 23:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-20 12:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Bryan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋