Love......?

Question

I see people's answers on here that say this is only a word. I have also seen questions looking for the definition of this word. I see other answers that describe this emotion perfectly. I see others that say "don't say it if you can't show it". So here's my question:

Why do we, as humans, have such a hard time showing this emotion to the people in our lives? and Why can't we say it to those we do love and those we show it to?

Answer 1

Huh. That is ***one*** big d4mn question.

*thinks and thinks and thinks* *asks wife the question*

Ok. I'ma have a stab at this one. Love makes you vulnerable. You in essance are letting your gaurd down. You are granting permission too another person too harm you. Make no bones about it! Love is a very very scary monster. It is all consuming and it so very rarely manifests it's self in a way that is easy too get your head around. Dolly Parton had a line in a movie "9 to 5" I think was the name of it. "A bird and a fish can fall in love but where would they make thier home."

Bottom line. It's scary. We as humans have a very strange way about us. Every ounce of our being will cry out at a dangerous sitchuation and yet... We suck it up and march head long into harms way. Humans can do that. Push the fear down! Out think it! Rationalize with it.... and over come.

Love... bungie jumping... sky diving... these are all very dangerous things. Love is the one very dangerous activity that can pay off. It's an investment, if you will be so generous too allow me a cr4ppy analogy. The divedends that you can reap from making your self vunerable too someone... well... Someone has too win the lottery, don't they?

So... Too sum it all up for you. It's fear. This is what prevents us from showing or verbally expressing our love too those we hold dear too our soul.

For more on my ramblings on "love" please feel free too examine the provided link.

http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlTeUtCzSbj4W1iWGeaUEhrg5gt.?qid=20061101011635AA5wlzv

I hope this helps. And I wish you all the luck in the world as you explore Love(tm). But most of all? I wish it for my self.

Answer 2

I think that if you were shown love and affection as a child, you will know how to show it as an adult. Most people have a problem with showing how they feel because they don't know how to show it. I hug, kiss and tell my loved ones that I love them daily because as a child my parents not only showed my siblings and I affection but they were affectionate to one another. My dad kissed my mom when he left for work and when he came home. They were always hugging and kissing and making goo-goo eyes at one another. Therefore my siblings and I thought that it was normal and we are that way to this day. I still kiss my mom and dad every time I see them.

Answer 3

If we give away our feelings at the wrong time or to the wrong person, we risk rejection and humiliation (and for men especially - looking soft). Most people are terrified of those feelings so prefer not to take the risk, even when the potential benefits could be great.

Answer 4

damn this is probably the best question ive had the pleasure of reading in here for a while but hey i cant answer it because i really dont know if we could all do this wed be so much happier and more at peace with each other dont ya think

Answer 5

It's like using the word "Bear" or "Fire"...it's got different meanings to different people in different situations! Saying I love you without demonstration or explanation is like screaming "Fire!" in a crowded theater; you'll get a reaction, but it probably won't be the one you were hoping for...

Answer 6

I think our life experiences try to protect this emotion, ya know to try stop us feeling pain again.

Sorry its not much of an answer honey, not quite with it today xx

Answer 7

1 Corinthians 13:3-7
3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Now looking into the King James version it uses the word charity. You hear of so many people giving millions of dollars to charity, how do we know that they gave to a charity, they tell us so we will think they are so giving. Charity is given without wanting to be known or waiting for the recognition we think we deserve. The same goes with love. Why do we give love to a person, because we want them to feel special to us. Are we looking for love in return, if yes, you are not truly loving. Love is given, not as a purchase for their love, it is a gift given to them for what you want to give them. It is a word that we have put with a feeling or an emotion. I love steak, no I am not going to marry it, but when I taste a juicy steak or a greasy hamburger, I love steak and will perfer it to the hamburger. I love my dog, if I had one. It means you are going to treat him right and you want him to be happy. Giving of oneself.
We use the "Word" so much that we have forgotten what it is all about. For God so loved the world, He sent His only son to die for us. What was God looking for when He did that? Nothing, He has given us a chance, in sending His son, an opportunity to have a relationship with Him. He was not looking for gifts from us. It was a selfless act in which He did. He knows that the ones that truly love Him will give their life to Him.
Over all we justify our actions as christians by saying we are only human and we have human wants and needs. What we should say and do is fall to our knees and ask for forgiveness and give our life over to Him. Then everything else would fall into place. How many of us have felt heaartache, how many of us have had a child died or a loved one die? You could not eat, you could not sleep, you cried, you lost wieght, and you became ill from a heartache. Now here we are sinning everyday and you think for one second, that God is happy with what we do? Do you think He does not cry, does His heart hurt? Of course it does, but He knows that He has a reward for those who choose to live the life of love and happiness in Godly eyes.
Why can't we show love, because we do not know what true love is until you come to terms with God. I am a sinner, God hates sin, but God still loves me. It is my choice if I what to be a better man, it is my choice if I want to live a life of love, and when I make that choice of living that life, all will see love through Christ in me.

Answer 8

modern people are so cold.they lost there sense of kindness..don't know why!