he is constantly breaking vases and miscellenous abjects in the house we let him see a shrink but the shrink says its nothing.my husband is spanking him for every broken object and i scold him his siblings are still OK though the 13 yr old is annoyed what should i do for my son(6 yrs old)?
2006-11-14 22:56:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
he is very persistent he throws tantrums and wakes my baby up i have 5 kids and this is this is the 3rd kid and he is crying,screaming and the neighbors are annoyed i have tried everything..prizes and everything u can thionk of
2006-11-15 21:03:24 · update #1
Battle of wills that you cant lose.
sounds to me you have a little brat on your hands, that perhaps youve been encouraging his behavior.
i dont know a kid out there whos persisted his behavior after the parents proved their will is stronger than the childs
sometimes a good spanking is justthe trick, but its how you explain it to your child afterwards that is the attitude adjuster.
Hes 6, and old enough to understand he cant go around breaking things.
But sometimes you throw a curve ball at him
Ever punish a kid with the worst punishment he cant stand?
you make him stand in the corner one hour with the tv playing besides him...see if that works
if that doesnt work, 2 hours
1 hour for everything he breaks
not sent to his room, right there in front of you
if he doesnt respond to one or two hours ..then make it days
Every morning wake his little but up at 5:00 AM
"you want to break things" time to stand in the corner
then at night, one hour before you go to sleep
you break something tomorrow, we will do this again and again, only longer
If hes not responding to the spankings, do something thats utterly painful for the child 9not physcially) but you have to win that battle of wills, or the child will only continue and get worse.
Write back if that 1 hour at 5:00 works for you
2006-11-14 23:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by writersbIock2006 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he thinks that violence is the answer seeing how your husband has taught him so well.You do teach a kid not to be destructive by being destructive and that's how a kid views spanking.Try making the 6 year old clean up the mess after a six minute time out and if he move or talks while in time out you start over until he gets it, but make him responsible.And don't get me wrong it's not that I don't believe in spanking but do you think this the right response.Spanking is one of those trump cards parents get for when the kids does something that would harm him or another person(like pushing your brother off a high dresser)It's the reaction that he gets from you that is making this behaviour continue.
2006-11-15 00:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring him to another therapist (not shrink). This child obviously has some frustrations that could be neurological. Spanking and yelling at him will only increase his anger and frustration. Try focusing on the good things he does and enforce them. A reward chart is good because he will see his accomplishments and the stickers mount. And praise him every time he does something right - even if it is just throwing his dinner napkin in the trash, everything. Correct naughty behavior in a way that is not demeaning - don't tell him he is a bad boy, tell him the behavior is bad. Make sure any consequences fit the crime and they are immediate. Be consistent and find competent help for him.
2006-11-14 23:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did this behavior just start?
if not u must of tolerated his behavior from when he was a baby. since spanking is not working why not give him a time out or taking away a favorite toy for the day.
maybe he thinks that the only time u guys pay attention to him is when he does something wrong. how about pointing out all the good things he does or when he is behaving the way u like. give praises more than u give spanking. maybe he will become more positive himself.
2006-11-14 23:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's throwing temper tantrums about something. What happens just before he throws something? I sit my soon to be 6 year old daughter down and ask her the reason why she throws temper tantrums. Usually, it's because I didn't pay enough attention to her and I tell her I'm sorry and give her the attention she wants. You could change doctors though. Some doctors can miss things. I wish you luck.
2006-11-14 23:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe start like a sticker, prize or something that your son has interest in game type thing. For instance, say he is into cars, then you could bye some tiny litte race cars or something and then everytime he breaks something then you take one away. And when he doesn't do anything for a whole day then you can give him one back. And if he doesn't have any taken away for a whole week, then he can get a special treat like ice cream or something.
I hope it works
2006-11-14 23:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by hottiesocrplaya13 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We put our good stuff up and out of reach from the little hands. You can also find him some other things to play with (cheap ones that we aren't afraid of him tearing up). He is only 6 and have you tried telling him that you don't like him breaking your 'pretties' and that he wouldn't like it if you broke his stuff. Is he clumsy or is he breaking these on purpose? If he's doing it on purpose then he's acting out against you or hubby, then you need to find out why he's mad. A shrink wasn't necessary. Kids break things.
2006-11-14 23:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by purrfectkitty73 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-11-15 01:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by snowyrivers28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put all breakable objects above his reach!!
Take away his toys and put him in the time out chair.
2006-11-14 23:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Carla S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everytime he breaks something of yours..take a favorite toy from him. You can't give it back.
2006-11-14 23:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋