what would you do..?

Question

what would you do if you knew your boyfriend was cheating on you but you didnt wanna break up with him bc you love him

also he keeps like pressuring me into having sex with him when i dont wanna and says stuff like 'have sex with me or ill leave you' which i really dont wanna happen..i just dont know what to do

Answer 1

it's totally uncool that he is cheating. but if you love him, maybe give him a chance and say: "i know you are cheating, but i love you". ask him to stop cheating to talk about it if he wants and tell him that if he stops you'll stay with him. otherwise you are out.

good luck!

Answer 2

This is a bad place to be in and if he can not give you enough respect to be faithful then speaking from experience I would like to tell you that the relationship will never be what you want it to be. It is so sad that two people can not just be faithful to each other. Being unfaithful; can cause so much damage to a woman that this can never be forgotten-you are lucky if you are able to forgive. You need to be receiving love as well as giving love. What is really bad is when they cheat and insist on lying about it. If you both can work through this then that will be fine just don't let him fool you with his lies. Think about yourself and how this affects you. A person can do a lot for love but when it comes to sacrificing yourself for someone who does not love you it is not worth the cost.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. It's best to remove yourself from the situation because you will probably be your biggest enemy (if you are sexually active you should probably use condoms at all times). Also get an AIDS test. Once you let go you should make sure that you don't hang around places he's used to going and don't answer his calls. You need time to get yourself together and the last thing you want to do is go running back when he calls like a whipped puppy. Because in that case, he'll know that he really has you wrapped around his finger. It will be tough at first, but if you really love yourself you've got to do it. Otherwise you are just delaying the inevitable, only the longer you wait, the more it will hurt. I'm really sorry.

Answer 4

Do you really want advice? I mean, do you really, really want to hear TRUE opinions?

Because it's to dump the Guy. Okay, But if he's not ready for monogamy and insists that it's okay if he flirts and is unfaithful, then honey, this is not a man worth keeping.

You're probably cringing, thinking, "But he's the love of my life!" Trust me, he's not. The love of your life will respect your needs and wishes, and won't disrespect you by being unfaithful. God help you if you end up marrying him then you be in worse trouble than you are in now!!

Now the angle of having Sex - You need a lesson on who a man really is. The feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of "surrender" in all kinds of joyful experiences. With sex, women surrender to the experience with a man through love and connection, which can make the man and woman as one. But the masculine energy doesn't work this way. At least not in the "darker" part of a man. The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - "Emptiness" and "Freedom", men often seek this physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary "freedom". A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued!!

Sorry to end on a downer, but ask yourself if a man who has to be coerced into being faithful is likely to remain faithful over the long haul and I am sure that the kind of guy that you truly want isn't the kind of guy who would act how this guy is acting. As in, the kind of guy who would threaten to leave you if you dont have sex with him.

So, sorry for asking but..What the hell are you doing!? You're wasting your energy trying to get the love and approval of someone who definetly does not love you and on top of that deceiving you and others too.

If I were you I would not even want to be with him !? and when you leave him give him a kick on his nuts for good measure so that he learns a lesson.

Good Luck>r

Answer 5

once a cheater, always a cheater. When in relationships you can still fantasize about others, but there is always a choice. It is this choice that the defines how you really feel about the relationship you are in.

If he has acted on a fantasy then he is not worth having around, because he doesn't have the strength to do the right thing.

How can you love someone who doesn't respect you? If he did respect you then he would have ended things with you in the first place, instead of cheating on you.

Answer 6

Then be that way for the rest of your life...It seems that you want to be blind and deaf in his unfaithfulness.If you want to be like that then do it, just make sure that you will still be alive after so many heartaches and pains that you would might feel in the future.The only problem in us, girls, is were so weak when it comes to love.We tend to get so dumb that we cannot break a man that breaks our hearts everyday WILLFULLY..I just hope if you really determined in not breaking up with him you will still feel the love that you want to have although theres another girl in his life..And a little love for yourself.Love is good but loving an unworhty man is not being good to yourself, not loving yourself.

Answer 7

Break up with him, because he doesn't deserve your respect or your love. Don't go back unless it is absolutely clear - and I mean crystal clear - that cheating is not tolerated.

There is only one chance. IF you take him back and he cheats again, then walk away. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you should accept the unacceptable...

Answer 8

Break up with him! It just proves that he doesn't love you. If he can cheat on you then why would you want someone that doesn't want you. Just try to let him go. It will hurt for awhile, but it is something that you will have to do. Find someone else that will love you...

Answer 9

Obviously you love him more than he 1. loves you and 2 loves himself. As a result I would break up with him and let him know that as long as he is unable to make a commitment to date only me then I don't want him in my life. Good Luck.

Answer 10

I'm sorry you love him but if he can't hold up on his commitment, will he be a good husband?Or father?
He'll just keep on cheating on you untill you do something.
Break-up with him then he'll be some other girls problem!!