i have a 2yr old son and he wont go to bed without me i have a baby on the way can anyone give me any tips?

Question

im 33 weeks pregnant i need despratly to get my son into a routine im not sure how to im on my own .

Answer 1

Put him in his bed, read him a story and be firm but kind, it could take a while but you're the boss and he has to do what you want. Good luck!

Answer 2

Yes he will go to bed without you, but you have to MAKE him. It's tough but you'll need to start out strong and stay consistant. You can start the routine by a giving him a bath (if you want) then sitting in his bed (he should be in a toddler bed in his own room) and reading 2 stories. Don't let him talk you into reading any more. Then tuck him and kiss him goodnight and tell him that you will see him in the morning. When he gets up (as I'm sure he will) carry him back to bed say goodnight and close the door. If he cries...be tough, he will be just fine. It's hard to hear your son cry but it's really the only way he is going to learn.
It will be a lot easier on you both if you get it done now rather than in a few weeks when the baby arrives :) Good luck!

Answer 3

nicely i think your soreness sweetie, my oldest son did an similar ingredient and now my 3 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous is following in his footsteps. some effective issues for me were looking a toy or something that he cares for and enable him sleep with it. type of pushing him into the nurturing postion. besides the undeniable fact that, i am going to tell it really is a very good option besides the undeniable fact that it would want to ok be something medical. Does he snore even as he ultimately does get sound sleep? if so, he may be like my boys and characteristic sleep apnea, which sounds enormous yet very explainable, by enlarged tonsils. Now if he has had a good number of ear infections or strep throat it is a precursor or like in my boys case purely genetics. The remedy although painsakingly hard for 2 weeks is to get the tonsils bumped off and from there you'll see a ton of nicely rested nights. solid success!

Answer 4

I used to have this problem with my son, we put him into a 'big boy' bed just before he turned 2. At first, I used to sit by him until he fell asleep and go, if he awoke in night I did the same again.

Then I started to put him to bed and stay with him a little bit and then say something like ' I am just going the toilet' or 'I am just going to .......(get a drink, turn oven off, put fire on, anything you can think of)' and I will be back in a min. I went for a couple of mins and came back, sat again and kept doing that for a bit. left him when he dropped off.

He eventually got the idea that I was going to come back if I went out and started dropping off when I wasn't tehre----I also gave him my pillow off my bed, so it smelt like me.

He is 3 now and I take him up to bed, read him a story and leave him---he is really good and tells me when its time for bed....lol. Hope this helps and good luck xxxxxxxxxx

Answer 5

I just went through this with my son.

We bought the book, "Llama, Llama, Red Pajama" about a little llama who cries for his mama. I read it to him several different times and then one day we discussed how he is growing bigger and it is time for him to go to sleep on his own.

The first night was hardest. I did stay in his room and sat next to his bed. Then I gradually moved farther away each night.

Do set a night time routine for him. Whatever works at your house....bath, snack, brush teeth, read, sleep. Then he'll know what is coming and will be more prepared to lay down.

It takes some time, but our son got used to the idea and now goes to bed on his own after we read each night.

The key is to be firm, don't back down and lay with him even though at 33 weeks pregnant you are tired! And also be patient.

Best of luck with this and the new baby...congratulations!

Answer 6

You are not going to like it but you have to put him to bed and kiss him goodnight and leave the room.
He will probably come back out you can then put him back in bed as many times as it takes
Let him know he is a big boy now and he has to sleep in his own bed
Mom this is the point that you need to be CONSISTANT with him. You are setting down rules and you need to follow through
It may take sometime but it will work trust me!
Maybe if you and your spouce trade of one night you put him to bed and the next he does. He is also learing how to control you you need to nio it in the butt before it becomes a bigger issue
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Answer 7

It will be the hardest thing you ever do but put the 2 y/o old in thier own bedroom and let them cry. I had several failed attempts at this but once I finally made the decision enough was enough, it only took a few nights before he loved sleepingin his own bed.

Answer 8

i have exactly the same problem, my son is 3 and a half and has never went to sleep without me since he was born, its a nightmare lying next to him for up to an hour each night till he falls asleep then trying to sneak out of the room!!
i'm now 8 weeks pregnant with my 2nd and i am also worried how i will manage to get my 3 year old to sleep on his own
good luck and sorry i dont have any advice
xxx

Answer 9

You're his security blanket. You need to find something that will allow him to sleep without you. When my oldest was a toddler she had the same problem and I didn't want her to blame the new baby for seperating us at sleep time. I had a little TV put in her room, (A temp measure), which worked, she fell asleep to the TV, but I felt was wrong, so I started to rub her head to fall asleep until she was a sleep then went to bed. http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/toddler/toddlersleep/1290162.html
Here's help from Penelope Leach. She has helped me through a lot raising my kids. (Not personally, but through her books and shows and this site). I got this spacific page for you, it talks about your situation and others.

Answer 10

I let my three year old stay up until she falls asleep on the couch or she falls asleep in the recliner then I put her in her bed. Better than a battle of screams and anger. This works in my house because I stay up late and I don't have to work. Every household is different.