What do guys think when a girl talks to his mate about any problems she is having with him?

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Answer 1

That is just wrong ..a girl shouldnt discuss her relationship with his mates..her mum and friends yes but thats it.

Answer 2

Oh Jesus my mate's girl does that to me! Right shes a lovely girl and we all get along very well but she can really go on and on about this that the other problems she having with one of my best mates, which is all well and good, i'm happy to listen,but sometimes I feel like she wants me to take a side or agree that my mate's been "a bast.ard".

It can be awkward so to be fair I'd prefer she didn't come to me with those problems since I'm so close to the guy she's goin with and it puts the middle man in an uncomfortable position if a row errupts.

Answer 3

yeah, hun... this is a no go thing to do... a man is a man is a man... his friends are his territory.. If he is bright enough - he should know not to talk to your friends about your relationship - and then your friends will tell you if he talked to them anyway, so what makes you think his friends wont do the same... but in some cases this infor could be useless, and maybe his friend would hae his best mated interest on his mind, and not just his best mates chick.

I hope everything is kewl..

best of luck..

Answer 4

hi, they might feel really comfortable with each other and she would be getting advice after all he knows you more than she does, but if she can talk to your mate this well why can't she talk to you and feel comfortable. i would tell her the next time you are on your own that if she has a problem to come and talk with you and you promise not to lose your temper and talk calmly about it, if she still carries on discussing things with your mate i would have a serious look at my relationship...maybe she is going out with the wrong guy ....good luck

Answer 5

I am sure that he really likes the fact that you would rather talk to his mate about the problems and then the mate can talk to all his other mates about it and have a right laugh. Yep I am sure he would just love that.

Answer 6

Well it dependes on what kkind of problems, from a girls piont of veiw i think they feel it's ok since they just want to understand thier guy more thur his friend.I fell the best thing is to talk with your guy about your problems coz most guys won't like you talking with there mate i mean it is beteween you and him so try to keep it that way.There is really no need for a third party

Answer 7

A man would think either you are petty for telling other people what should be handled by the two of you, secondly he may think you have a crash with his mate and you want it known to him that there is a problem and thirdly he would be worried that his mate would take advantage and draw you to him.

Answer 8

There are 2 ways of looking at this -

1. He'll be p*ssed that you're discussing personal issues with his mate and be (maybe) justifiably upset.

2. He'll be concerned that you felt you couldn't talk to him about it but flattered that you obviously care enough to remedy the issue.

Remeber that most men have sensitive egos so chances are that option number 1 will be most prominent in his mind.

Answer 9

That she should stick to her own mates - it creates a conflict of confidence for the friend and isn't fair. Or worse, she's trying to flirt with his mates by confiding personal info - that goes down even worse.

Answer 10

If you have a problem with your partner than it should be discussed with your partner, if you do need some advice then your close friend or family e.g mum, dad. Talk to them if you can trust them and see there points of view. You should be brave enough to slove problems between yourselves. Communication is a big part of a relationship dont let it slide!
Claire x