Ive had loads of problems with relationships ever since i started dating. I can't ever hold a relationship down for more than a few months, and its starting to really affect my confidence, even though i get told regularly that im attractive. I met this guy at a party a couple of months ago, and things were going great. he was attractive, funny, sweet and we met up regularly and had loads 2 talk about. i thought i had finally found someone who would stick around. he would send me texts each day telling me how much he liked me and that he missed me, and that he was glad we were together. however, last wed he came over my house 4 the first time, and we got intimate, although we didnt go the full way. i also got angry with him that day, bcos he said he would meet my family that day, but then told me he had 2 leave at 5 bcos of a job (hes a security engineer). He didnt contact me regularly from then on, blaming it on credit or 'a headache'. i got a text this morning telling me it was over.
2006-11-14 22:15:49 · 27 answers · asked by fire_breather89 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We women have this awful bloody problem that when things go wrong we automatically assume it's OUR fault or something WE did!!!!
Some men don't like women who have an opinion or a voice!
To be honest maybe it's good that he has ended the relationship, he sounds like he may have more baggage than you know about. It shows commitment to meet someones family and if that's whats scared him off your better off without him, girl!
2006-11-14 22:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oops... not nice is it?
Do you think perhaps it maybe was something to do with the "and we got intimate, although we didn't go the full way"??
I reckon it was..
Did you initiate it?
Was he expecting more?
Was he left disappointed?
Did he embarrass himself?
Are there personal hygiene problems?
There are a multiple of possible reasons... I suggest you contact him and ask him...
If you can get "intimate" with someone, surely you can ask them why!
And similarly.. if he can allow you to get intimate with him... he shouldn't be embarrassed at telling you why either!
One word of advice though... you have no right to get mad at him just because he didn't meet your family. You make it sound like a big issue to you and he may have seen that as some sort of commitment issue that he was simply not ready for.
Anyway... if he doesn't reply... post his mobile number and we'll all give him a call for you! LOL
2006-11-14 22:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by jonti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does sound as if you are quite intense- most guys are not ready to meet the family until they have been dating and intimate for a while. You may have been too serious too soon for him. Slow down a bit, there are princes out there but have some fun kissing the frogs first and you may find that one will transform into Mr Right if he's not under pressure to do so!
2006-11-14 22:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by annie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I can't speak for your other relationships but it sounds to me in this case like he was after sex and when he realised it wasn't going to be as easy as all that he lost interest.
There's an awful lot of stupid, nasty blokes out there. It's possibly that you have just be unfortuante and found more than your fair share. Luckily there are some really great guys too. Don't give up and don't blame yourself.
2006-11-15 01:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi , i feel there should be something wrong, if things were going so well and then BAM, it gones a different direction maybe you should check yourself if things have been going this way with your past relationshipes.For starters why don' t you try to get in touch with this guy and ask him, that you would really like to know what went wronge if it had something to do with you or not that it's very important you kknow and you would like to know the truth am sure he will tell if he really liked you.
2006-11-14 22:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by shiva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have to analise your behavior. what did u mean u became angry at him? how did u begave when u were angry? did u yell at him? sulk? rule numeber one: never show u re angry untill u re married or are in steady relationships. he needs to go? fine. just smile. he changes planes? just smile. u will revenge on everything later, when he is commited and isn't going anywhere. untill that u don't show how u feel. u show only that u ra happy, kind, loving, attractive woman, who has no negative emotions whatsoever. whatever happens. can't u control yourslef for some period? come on, it can't be that hard. im very very impulsive, i have the worst temper ever, i yell all the time, but even i can hold my temper for a few months when required. so stick to rule number one: shut up and smile and u will be fine
2006-11-14 22:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds to me like he thought it was something casual and you were trying to push things too fast for him.
It could also be that he felt insecure because you got intimate and angry...so he may have thought there was something wrong with his performance.
it could also be that he was happy with things on his terms and then you want something from him and it doesn't fit with what he wants.
Every relationship is different and letting your confidence be swayed by that is not a good thing. Personally, after relationships I try and owrk out what I need to learn from it. Every time there is quite a bit a learn from myself. Have you tried this?
2006-11-14 22:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't give a clue o yr age ! r his ! though if he is an engineer i'm sure he had to do some study, so i guess he is old enough to know better than treat a girl this way. Its obvious to us he just wants s... and not a relationship which i feel you are lookin for and that scares guys off. Be calmer at gettin to know guys, just be freindly, don't see them as potential partners or you'll end up with the wrong guy anyway...good luck
2006-11-14 22:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry for you honey, he has done the dirty on you and found someone else. He was playing two hands in a poker game and you lost.
Dont let it get you down better to know now rather than 6 months down the line.
And yes you will find somone really nice, it's called fate or thats what I keep telling myself anyway.
cheer up x go and put the kettle on and have a cup of tea.
2006-11-14 22:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds to me like he thinks you are a little too complicated.
I understand your disappointment but having any type of confrontation (irrespective of how pedantic) this soon into a relationship can put unnecessary pressure on an otherwise fun and exciting ecounter.
2006-11-14 22:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋