I have been separated from my ex for nine months now. Am over him, I know that. I have met some lovely people, get so close and then shut down, won't let them in. It frustrates the hell out of me, I can feel it happening but cannot stop myself. HELP!!!!!
2006-11-14 22:07:04 · 13 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you just need to learn to trust again when u meet the person who u feel u can trust u wont even realise it. youll know because you will just start to open up. Dont push away what could be a good thing tho be careful good luck
2006-11-15 00:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by browneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol i can relate to wad u r feelin now... i been though that loads of time...
1. u need to give yourself some space and time to... find yerself..
realli... u need to know wad u realli wan and wad u dun..
2. once u know yerself, u will find things that u dun wanna hang on to.. (that's yer bricks).. get rid of them...
3. smile to the world (breaking the wall u had built) the world will seem to be a better place once u have done all this steps..
4. before going into a relationship again... list out the things u c in your partner... list out things u dun like bout him... ask yourself can u live with his bad points? and always remind yerself... you love him for a reason... not cos of some rebound kind of stuff...
2006-11-15 06:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Nitesky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a self defense type of thing, I do it to but I do not want anyone to get to close getting hurt sucks. Maybe in time or when the right person See's the climb over my wall worth getting to know what is behind it then maybe but I cannot see it for myself. Good Luck!
-NmD!
2006-11-15 06:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fear. You have to search yourself to pin point exactly what you're afraid of and talk your self down, so to speak. Tell yourself that what you're afraid of probably won't happen and so what if it does. You'll get over it and be a better person for it. Good luck to you.
2006-11-15 06:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself more time, even though your over him in your mind. your heart may need more time to heal. No one can set a time limit to getting close to someone again, you will get back on that horse when your ready. Best of luck to you!
2006-11-15 06:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are quite right keeping up a barrier because you have been hurt...make sure you get to know the person very well before you let them into your heart.
2006-11-15 06:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the sort of problem that can be dealt with by congnitive psychotherapy.
I waould also state that 9 monhs is not really that long and you might not have really recovered from your seperation.
2006-11-15 06:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to love yourself and try to love others not in the same eye. In life we have to face everything sometimes hate, love, angry but we have to overcome it after a certain time, otherwise you will be a frog in a well.
2006-11-15 06:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by nanu T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to give yourself so more time, then you can demolish your wall brick by brick take it slow theres no hurry, trust me it will happen in time good luck and keep safe
2006-11-15 06:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by dididdleydihi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either one of two things is occurring ...first your afraid of involvement or your not over her...figure out which...if its the involvement find the things that make you comfortable and focus your activity with those in mind. if its her...figure out what ther real allure is and try to include it with whoever you seek.
2006-11-15 06:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋