Should i contact him or leave it.he lives down south we've been out twice before and slept together on the last date. he texts me to say he misses me and cant wait to see me again.He was going to come up last week but forgot to alter his appts.He offered to move them but i said leave it till next week.Plus i emailed him a couple of weeks ago to say if he didnt want to see me anymore then i'd appreciate him letting me know but he said he did want to see me.he is always a bit last minute and with work also.Is he messing me about.He said he'd phone on monday but hasn't.
i'm not good at this dating lark having recently spilt from a long term relationship.
2006-11-14 21:54:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ya, i'd call him. just so that if he has changed his mind..then you are not left on a friday nite waiting for the phone to ring.
2006-11-14 21:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by canada grl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet...the worst thing you can do is email him and say "if you don't want to see me anymore then just let me know!". I was seeing a guy a while back who i really, really liked its just that right when i started to date him I landed the biggest account at work ever! I really wanted to see him, but i was just sooooo busy that I forgot to call, or had to cancel things at last minute because my boss was wanting reports on his desk. He started messaging me saying "why don't you want to see me" and "if you're not interested just say so". Even though I tried to explain that i did want to see him, i was just really busy he still kept on! In the end, and regardless of how hot he was I told him that I couldn't carry on dating someone who was incessantly wanting to be with me!
Take 5 minutes out. You've just come out for a long term relationship. I guess that your dating technique is just a little rusty (like anyone's after a l-t-r!). Today is Wednesday - text or sms him tomorrow and say something like "Hey, how's your week going? Just thought I'd check to see if we're still on for tomorrow night as I'm looking forward to seeing you." That way not only are you asking if you're still on, but you're enquiring about how his week went as well. Put a report on your phone so that you know when its been delivered.
I agree with some of the other answers - this is typical male behaviour. They don't mean it, its just the way they are!
The best advice i can give you is to just relax and chill out a bit, if he's keen he'll call you back. If he doesn't then although its hard to stomach at the time, you're better off without someone who is always letting you down and you should just concentrate on going out, having a great time and building up some self confidence and girl power that I'm sure you have!
xx
2006-11-14 22:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like typical male behaviour. It could just be that he's just not very organised. I'd give him a call this evening or if you prefer, just send a text to see if your still on for Friday. If you dont get a response by tomorrow then make plans for Friday yourself and then if he turns up and your not there it will taech him a lesson.
Good luck!
2006-11-14 22:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just chill go out on the date don't push things let it just flow then you'll know what he really wants with time.you said you just got out of a long term relationship just take things easy i think a breake will be ok before rushing into things i know how it feels the same thing happened to me.Take your time, by the way you know how guys are when you push them to much they may end up taking off.
2006-11-14 22:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes either just cr*ap or he is playing a game ( treat them mean keep um keen ).
And it seems to be working.
If you want ask him an assumptive question like what time are picking me up on friday. That should reslove the situation and never let anyone walk all over you!!!
good luck x
2006-11-14 22:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say do not call him. if u call him he will think he is control and will behave much much worse. if he wants to see u he will contact u. but if i were u i would have started arranging my friday night without him. so even if he calls u can say "sorry pal, u promised to call on monday, cos u didn't i assumed u were not going to see me on friday". this would teach him a lesson. and get real girl, what was this question of your to him about "if u don't want to see me i would appreciate u telling me that"? im sorry, but this is as dumb and low as u can go. u don't ask a man this kind of question. it shows u re insecure and consider yourself not worth of his attention.u play as if he doesn't mean anything to u. let him come to u. let him be insecure. let him see u as a price. pretend u re busy with dating even if u re not. and no man ever will tell u right in your eyes "i don't like u i won't see u anymore" even if they think u re not a woman for them absolutely. they will prefer just not to call anymore.
please do not take advices those dumb women and men to call him first. never ever call a man. that will make him value u. if he doesn't call he weren't your man on the first place
2006-11-14 22:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me personally I would wait, maybe you could send a quick text about something other than the date still showing interest but nothing to gooney!Let him phone you and double check about your next date. Its up to you babes if its worth it!
Claire x
2006-11-14 22:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by darbys_babbs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sort of situation is pretty annoying but is very common in the dating game.
I'd give him a quick ring just to confirm. He probably just forgot to call, he sounds somewhat scatter-brained.
2006-11-14 22:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where from down south? I'm down south - I could go and spy on him for you....cos to me .... sounds like he might be stringing you along a bit. It might be he has a g'friend and is just using you when she's not around.
seriously - I need something to do tonight - where's he live.
hehe
2006-11-15 01:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait. just go to the date. let him to make the next step!! wish you good luck! ;-)
2006-11-14 22:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋