please help me. i am a dental nurse, and i work with a lady dentist whom is asian(not that it matters what ethic she is from, although it may be a factor of the cause) she has really bad B.O (body odour) how do i tell her??
i've told the principal but she does not know how to resolve this issue meanwhile im working in a surgery 8 hours a day with this disgusting stench!!! what do i do??
how do i tell her???
she is really nice and i don't want to hurt her feelings!!
everyone else feels the same but i have to work with her!!
its got so bad i'm thinking of leaving!!
2006-11-14 21:53:14 · 24 answers · asked by natasha l 1 in Health ➔ Dental
buy her some deodorant!!!!
2006-11-14 21:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem at my work, a co-worker smelled as though he bathed once a month (not joking). We were on a construction crew, and we told the foreman, but he didn't want to do anything. The rest of us just started to pick on him about how badly he smelt. After about a month of nagging him I realized that it wasn't making a difference, so I just told him,"There is a reason that we are picking on you, you need to shower more often, and we will stop." I would like to say that there was an immediate change, but about a week later, he started to shower regularly. My only advice is that you be honest. Don't be mean as we were, that doesn't really help the problem, but let her know that she smells bad, and that it is causing problems. If that doesn't help, then talk to your boss about it again. If she doesn't do anything, then go over her head. Having someone who smells of BO is just plain bad for business, especially in the medical field, so I am sure that someone will help you.
2006-11-15 06:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to expose my soul..............
I have lived this from all angles.
I once worked with a guy who was exactly the same. All the girls in the office would corner me in the stationery cupboard and stick a can of deo in my hand with the words - "make him use this". It was only years later that I figured out the unspoken message, I could do with some of that stuff myself.
I'm one of those awful guys who just attracts women, a male babe-magnet (more for my humour and self-deprecating attitude that huge muscles or huge anything else). I seem to give girls the feeling that I'm "safe" if they need a shoulder to cry on (little do they know, it's just a tactic, girls).
What hit me in the face like a wrecking-ball was getting a birthday card from all the girls in the office (without names, just signed "the girls") telling me that I stink.
Years later, I had to solve the problem for another male colleague subordinate to me when "the girls" (different girls this time) lodged a formal complaint. I decided to bite the bullet, take him out for a beer and just tell him straight.
He still occasionally thanks me for that, and we've been really close pals for nearly fifteen years.
Honesty is the best policy. Try it.
2006-11-15 06:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ReREAD what psstthok said ... and realize honesty is the best policy ... unless you tell her, she could eventually drive patients away. And why should you have to suffer too!
It's one thing to stink up your own house and offend your family ... but this is a work place, and personal hygiene should be a requirement, especially working with the public.
Take her to lunch one day ... or have a coffee with her after work.
Sometimes people can't smell their own smell ... (maybe something is wrong with her sinuses in her own head) ... but let her know how it is affecting you, and possibly patients.
If she is against using deoderant, there is something called a 'deoderant stone'. There is something in the stone to prevent sweating to the point of smelling.
Perhaps you can tell her about that.
BUT FOR YOUR OWN SANITY, TELL HER SOMETHING!
You might be surprised ... she may appreciate your advice.
If worse comes to worse ... get her one of these Deoderant stones for a Holiday Gift (and write your reason on a friendly seasonal card)
2006-11-15 06:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by GRNeyzNYC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. I worked with a chap who had terrible BO . I carefully chose a quiet time to save embarrassment and said `I'm sure I can smell BO, is it me`and promptly put my nose under my arm as if to check and then suggested he did the same. He then realised it must be him. I said that in my lunch break I would buy him the male version of my deodorant as being such a good looking fellow he should smell good for his girlfriend too. We are still friends. Maybe you could try this approach
2006-11-17 21:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by arewebovvered 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for her , you shld tell her . . but say it nicely or amke a letter .. you work in an environment wherein you can tell the patients honestly if they have bad breath , it is the same thing with bad odour.. but do it nicely. Im sure she will appreciate it.. or give a letter to her sign anonymous if you dont want to tell her, but please make a nice letter. Maybe you can include an alum? Its better to try than not doing anything .Good Luck!
2006-11-15 07:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by ellehda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised some of the patients havent said anything. It would really put me off if my dentist stank! She probably washes but fails to use anti-perspirant. The smell could be coming from her clothes. I'd make some comment about the uniform like 'I find that this tunic makes me really sweat even though I wash and use really strong deodorant. Do you find that?' Or say something about how you're always washing your uniform. Its a tricky situation and I dont envy you !
2006-11-15 06:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strike up a conversation with her and pretend that your water has been cut off - or your boiler has broken down. Explain how 'dirty' you feel because you are unable to take your morning and evening shower, which you feel is very important for your own hygene and that of the patients.. But whatever you do, you shouldn't leave your job over this problem.
2006-11-15 12:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Sparticus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there i work with some asian people and i mentioned about their B.O and one of them a man told me that they dont use deoderants on their skin,(didn't say why) maybe something to do with their beliefs, and then ignored me,
i suppose if they were told to do summit about the smell they would file for compensation against their human rights or summit along them lines.....
2006-11-15 06:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Pink Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats awful, try asking her if she's tried a new deoderant... then spray her with it and tell her that u have 3 the same, then give her 2; later in the day tell her the aroma really suits her... oh plus tell her its alcohol free, then she wont mind using it! this is a sure fire way of chaning her b/o to bearable, this is how my little problem was sorted out... whatever u do dont come up with a playful nickname ie: stinky drawers, this is a bad way to do it
2006-11-15 05:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by crash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to loose then - buy some products and sit her down and talk to her and be as sympathetic as you can.
Maybe even suggest you used to have the same problem and didn't realise until someone told you - that may help.
If it all goes wrong - then leave anyway
2006-11-15 05:57:20 · answer #11 · answered by k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋