Since he was little he began stealling coins and now as he is older its paper money. I got him to admit it once, he was raelly open and returned all the money. After that he didnt do it for awhile and now he started back up again. Theres a name for this disease, but im not sure and would like for some nice advive to help me.
2006-11-14 21:53:03 · 10 answers · asked by racey dweik 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
So far the answers I got have nothing to do with my son. I ts only money. And has nothing to do with attention. He gets more attention then most anybody
2006-11-14 22:19:52 · update #1
The name for the disease of taking things that don't belong to you is "kleptomania". You say none of the answers pertain to your son, the truth is, they aren't what you wanted to hear. Your son has a learned behavior. He stole coins from someone as a smaller child and you did nothing because in your words, "it's only money". He has learned there are no consequences for "stealing" what he wants. If you don't teach him different now, the police will be knocking one day and who will you blame that on?
2006-11-15 02:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Renae 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing is what does he do with the money? Is he buying things or just hording the money away? How do you know he is stealing it? Have you found it in his room or just noticed it missing? Also on a more personal note is your family struggling to make ends meet? Sometimes when a parent goes into financial hardship the child will try to "help" by "collecting" money. Is he only stealing money from you or does he do it to anyone any chance he gets? It may be that he wants to buy things and thinks you'll just say no so he takes matters into his own hands. One thing I would recommend is contacting your local police station and seeing if a juvinile delinquency office could sit down and talk to your son to explain to him the potential consequences of stealing and that is against the law. I'm not saying anything that will scare him to death but maybe he doesn't think there is anything really wrong with taking a dollar out of mom's purse, but there is a chance this could evolve into something more severe down the road like shoplifting and you want to nip it in the bud now. If all else fails you may want to talk to a counselor to find the underlying reasons behind your son's thefts. Good Luck
2006-11-18 09:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? Does he seem really fascinated with the coins/paper money?
there is a thing called cleptomania, that may be what you're thinking of.
Do you know why he steals the money? is it because he is so attracted and drawn to it?
It could be he has no intention of hurting people or taking their belongings, he just can not resist the urge to touch the money and horde it or keep it.
Talk to him first, to figure out why he does this, then take him to a therapist. It sounds like he is obsessed with the money, for whatever reason. I am not qualified to say what the problem is. I do know, from personal experience that my son has to have a string. he spends about 1/2 an hour each day playing with a piece of string, and he can not stop. It used to be he carried string everywhere, but now he limits the string to after school. He is able to control himself when in public, but he still needs to have that string at home.
2006-11-15 11:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how many times youve told him, would dictate if he requires a good butt whooping or just a nice punishment.
Stealing is one of those things KIDS cannot do.
First time caught...is the only time
i dont understand parents some times that cant figure out why there kids repeat bad behavior.
Well its because you didnt knock it out of them the first time they did it.
He wants money -- have him earn it.
Coming from a father, if my little girl ever took something that wasnt hers..she gives it back, and gets a good reminder that that doesnt happen again. then I explain to her why we cant take from other people, that a real person works for what they want...and I let her know she doesnt have to steal...she just has to ask daddy what she wants and Ill help her get it.
whether its working doing extra chores around the house, or if old enough help wash cars, walk dogs, babysit for the neighbors.
this is the perfect time to teach him responsibility, and a pride that comes with working for what you want.
Now, after what I explained aboce, if my little girl still decided to steal something. well thats an easy fix...she gets a good butt whooping for not listening to me the first time and a good punishment to go with it. A nice long punishment that makes her think twice. Oh yeah and she has to return whatever she stole and work it off 10 times over.
How do you think shed act after that?
Maybe even a trip to the local police station could scare it out of him -- depending on how far into the stealing he is. MOST important, what type of relationship you have with him
Its alot harder for parents if they havent earned the childs respect.
But thats what I would do
2006-11-15 06:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by writersbIock2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two sons and one daughter. In my opinoin, all three of them have faults. My eldest two tend to dither when they have a decision to make whereas my youngest just makes his mind up.
This is not a disease but my youngest, for some reason, did one or two things when he was little that I prefer to forget about. You don't say how old your son is but, if you feel that he is old enough, you could at least threaten to throw him out. I find it hard to believe that there is such a disease and I think that being a mummy or daddy is extremely difficult and, especially, when your ex turns out to be violent and so on.
2006-11-16 16:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're thinking of kleptomania...
but i wouldn't jump to calling it a disease. depending on your son's age and situation, it may just be that he wants attention...or that he wants money...or the power he believes it provides. there's likely an underlying, and maybe not so obvious, reason he's stealing.
here's a good article that may help:
http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/positive/family/shoplifting.html
2006-11-15 06:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you punish him? You should of nip this in the bud.
Kids do things for attention.
Have you caught him in the act? What did you do, nothing?
He needs a good lecture and his toys taken away!
2006-11-15 07:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Carla S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok what is your question? why dont you tell him to keep of the purse you are the parent! get a shrink for him
2006-11-15 06:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kleptomaniac might be the word u are looking for.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kleptomaniac
2006-11-15 06:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sierra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
collectomaniac i think thats what it is called
2006-11-15 05:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by aussie_female1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋