Do women find it easier to accept someone elses child than men do ?
2006-11-14 21:33:14 · 31 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ha you guys make me laugh, bringing up someones elses kids you mugs !!!!!
2006-11-14 21:36:47 · update #1
Alan B. I was just asking a hypotheotical question !!
2006-11-14 21:39:23 · update #2
Women with kids refer to themselves as a package. Is that like package holiday because we all know what that means cheap and usually pretty bad!!!!
2006-11-14 21:47:45 · update #3
it depends on the person.
If your preference is to date women w/out baggage, that's fine.
It's just knowing what you want ahead of time, & saving yourself from a lot of heartache.
Then I'd feel like the jerk for dumping them afterwards.
I personally wouldn't date anyone knowing they have baggage.
Why would your waste time otherwise?
2006-11-14 21:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Trinity 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's not a easy question to answer because some women can be "cold" and not accept the kids. Sometimes men can just get in there and love the kids whole heartedly - it just depends on the person. You can't really generalise an issue like that.
And hey - kids are not baggage - they are just part of the package!!!! You just have to decide if you want the whole package because there is not point in wanting half of it!
Xx
2006-11-14 21:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by honeyed_dimples 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if i were u i wouldnt be calling kids "baggage" if u wanna make a good impression!! =|
Sometimes kids are a blessing!!
Othertimes they can be the complete opposite...
But just because a woman has a couple of kids or just 1, doesnt mean u should write her off ur list!!!
You might find a mum-type is more mature/level-headed!!
I have 2 kids and id find it an insult if i was single & was turned down by a guy because of my kids!!
Id make sure the guy got a big piece of my mind!!! =) lol not worth my time in the end!
2006-11-14 21:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all... our children aren't baggage. If someone finds "mom" interesting and wants to date her, he does need to realize that she is a package deal. Her kids are going to come before her own happiness so if a man wants to date her, he needs to understand this.
In answer to your second question..no it really isn't easier for a woman to accept someone else's child than for a man. Women just tend to know the rule of relationships involving children
2006-11-14 21:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To answer the questions...
Yes, I would date a woman with kids. Primarily, because I am a single father myself, so kids aren't the issue. Mostly, because the honest truth is I will get bored with her before I get bored with the kids...
Why do women find it easier to accept someone else's kids? (Rash generalization to follow...) Because evolutionary biology has bred women to be nurturers, and female instinct tends toward protecting the young. The instinct for men is to terminate the genetic line of competition, not foster it. Now, we are living in an age of reason - but we still evolved from Stone Age beings...
(Even if you don't subscribe to the theory of evolution, the brains of men and women are wired that way. For a man to accept another man's progeny as his own is a triumph in its own right...)
2006-11-14 21:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by keltarr 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your original question was bad enough,but your additional details are even worse.Children are NOT baggage,& women with children are not cheap & bad.Your mother had you,unfortunately for her,does that make her cheap?To have a child to love & trust you,no matter who 'owns' it is a blessing.You are a small-minded,self-righteous gobshite.Wise up!
2006-11-14 22:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't date a woman if I knew from the start that she had kids and I don't apologise for thinking like that. If I dated a woman and then later found out that she had kids, then she would have to be really special for me to stay with her.
If and when I decide to have children I want my own, not somebody elses.
2006-11-15 00:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that is a very wrong way to think about kids as baggage, but there is no big deal some people are not good with kids or don't really know how to handle them so they end up not having them, so i think you should reconsider if you were thinking of dating someone who has kids.like they sat different strokes for different flokes.
2006-11-14 21:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are not baggage but i would not date a women who has kids i just don`t want the trouble of there bio dad and all the other trouble that comes along with it.
2006-11-14 21:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends, I am a single mother of two and My boyfriend is a single father of two.It was a little more difficult for him due to my kids being younger but now they love him we both have never had a problem with kids its usually the kids that have a problem in the beginning .
2006-11-14 21:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋